Thoughts and links on transgender issues Notes are by Sandra Dodd unless otherwise credited. In January 2017, it was brought to my attention that there are unschoolers who feel that because of the principles of unschooling, the parents are required to say yes to whatever a child wants. That was a misunderstanding on their part, or is being used as an excuse, or they're confused, but when that confusion intersects some of the kinds of transgender ideas linked or quoted below, they might be too quick to jump too far.
The idea that unschooling might be a factor in parental hesitation or logic is the purpose for my creation of this page. Some of what is written below is by unschoolers, and some is from outside, brought because I thought it could help people clarify without it being personal.
(more "why" at the bottom) A summary of why on September 10, 2018
Two years after the founding of the group discussion for parents linked just below this, Jenny Cyphers wrote, of unschooling:
What's been the most frustrating is the total lack of information on this subject, for parents to have a deeper understanding. The narrative is already set in stone and any questioning or deviation from it, gets you labeled a bigot and a transphobe. That actually does a great deal of harm for all children exploring their personhood. One singular narrative doesn't make for good outcomes. What it does is put children and their parents, seeking to be kind and supportive, onto a singular path that cannot be questioned.
Most useful, and newer:
A directory for use by people who don't want to join but would like to access the collected links and comments. Transgender Questions.rtf
Questions about transgender issues, PUBLIC, so don't respond if you need to have privacy. This is not a private group; it's not secret; it's open.
Discussions have been in closed groups, secret groups, and friends-only discussions where questions seem to be discouraged, so I'm hoping to set some things out in public so people can share what they know, and have more information to think about what they're told or come across in random ways.
If you want to send a comment or link and you don't want your name to show with it, send it to an administrator of the group.
Parents' Words on Transgender Kids
Back to Oneself—detransition
Some of these pages need more info or formatting, but here's what's being collected:
Phrases used repeatedly in transgender defense such as "google it," "literally..." "dumpster fire"
Building a Transgender History
In June 2018, someone thanked me in public for this page, and for being a critical thinker. Most of my response:
Thanks.My interest is unschooling, and keeping some clarity and light around that topic.
I made that page because of a couple of concerns. Some people are associating this with unschooling, and some unschooling parents are being pressured by other unschoolers to just act without thinking, and to accept glorious claims without asking too many questions.
Learning doesn't work that way, and I care about helping people have more faith in their ability to learn and to make thoughtful, mindful decisions. Without considering what can go wrong, and what is or isn't even possible, there is no thoughtful decision.
I've been misrepresented and insulted about it, but I think that's part of creating false teams and enemies, which makes it easier to bully people, and make them feel better about being pressured to allow (and to pay for) "treatments" and surgeries that block or destroy healthy function.
If some people hadn't used unschooling phrases and networks to pressure others, I wouldn't have said or written a word.
If people live their unschooling in the normal, present world, thoughtfully, solidly, they should be okay.
There is a danger when someone's own understanding and practice of unschooling is shaky, and she wants the approval of others more than the solid joyful everyday life of her family. I've seen a few of those.
Another problem comes when someone's reasons for unschooling are not about learning and family relationships, but about being way cool and out there, and cutting edge, and anti-this'n'that. But that sets the stage for lots of problems in insecure people, when they want to glom onto something that's wild and new and shocking.
After four years of looking at these issues I've learned more than I wanted to know.
I'm going to leave some links for my own purposes; if others want them that's fine, but sometimes I can't find info again.
This Never Happens, about crimes committed by female-identifying men. "This Never Happens is a research archive. It is not a discussion group."
Sports:Trans Athletes Are Posting Victories and Shaking Up Sports>
Transgender wrestler Mack Beggs wins Texas girls title again
and a follow-up: Transgender wrestler has ‘top surgery’ and sex changed to ‘male’ on birth certificate
Transgender athletes don't belong in girls' sports. Let my daughter compete fairly. This one needs a New York Times subscription: Inclusion of Transgender Student Athletes Violates Title IX, Trump Administration Says (It has nothing to do with Trump.)