Because the term "transgender" covers a lot of vague and specific ground, it's hard to say briefly what it is "to be transgender" and then to change one's mind.
For those who had no physical treatment, no drugs or surgery, the term "desist" has been used. For those who have been physically changed, "detransition."
I hope a term will evolve that describes them in a more positive, whole way, but for now I will just collect stories, or links to stories.
Pressure to Transition
"The voices of detransitioned lesbians and lesbians who've struggled with gender dysphoria or pressure to transition need to be amplified and made more widely available."
Menstrual—Carey Callahan, a story of why being female seemed crazy, time on testosterone, a return to womanhood, and new understandings.
Tracie Warden Denga posted a graphic created by a detransitioner (who asked for the removal of the credit)
Someone came to say the regular things, "are you transgender?" and it's nobody's business, and it's about finding her true self, not about relatives.
My response (which could disappear if the person deletes her comment) was:
-=-this isn't about family, or friends, nor jobs, or education. -=-The rest might still be here. It was public.The question asked in the graphic is partly about that.What has a person risked to be "their true self" and how true was that self if so much regret comes that the person detransitions?
Increasingly, parents are being pressed to pay for blockers and hormones for children, and it's not cheap. Families have broken up, and if the child decides later she was wrong and regrets it all, the family doesn't magically re-unite when she detransitions. Time doesn't go backwards.
And so the question in the graphic is about a person's whole life in the real world, not about a fantasy new life that affects no one and nothing. Those lives don't exist.
Jenny Cyphers brought a story (not of her own family, but another) on January 20, 2018, with this intro:
Learning to love yourself and the body you were born with is a powerful thing. You only get one body, one self, one life. Transgender ideology is so regressive. Love yourself, dress and look how you want. Cut your hair, grow it out, wear dresses, don't wear dresses, look feminine (whatever that means) look masculine (whatever that means). You don't need to reinforce gender stereotypes to be yourself.I hated her guts at the time: A trans-desister and her mom tell their story Posted on January 18, 2018
Brie's daughter's story, from the mom's and daughter's perspectives:
Brie Jontry: Born in the right body Noor Masterson (Brie's daughter), and her account:It's not conversion therapy to learn to love your body: A teen desister tells her story
Jenny Cyphers, of her daughter's time as trans: A Careful Step into a Field of Landmines
Lists from other people's sites:
Trans-Skeptical Websites, Trans Youth Critical Websites, Detransition Websites/Trans People Not Utilizing Surgery or HormonesFemale to male and back to femaleEight links to blogs at the bottom of this article: An Open Letter to Julia Serano from One of the Detransitioned People You Claim to "Support" [backup in case that disappears]
Pique Resilience—four young women sharing their experiences: Channel, main page
Male to female and back to male.
Frank, who tells about the three pills he took (not just estrogen, but one to prevent the cancer estrogen can cause, and then a third one), and about the influences on him to transition. The end is odd, and contradicts some of the earlier statements (about physical and medical problems, and the many surgeries he used to want), but it seems to be the obligatory bow to trans-land that many detransitioners do make in their accounts.
Transgender index page
Links and commentary (originating in an unschooling forum)
Public facebook group
(if it's still there)
