This and more, including the presentation itself, are at
Follow-up Page for UCA First Online Conference

September 19, 2015

page updated August 2019, for link to new edition of The Big Book,
and other slight repairs

Sandra Dodd's notes, links, overflow questions

Main page of my website

My presentation showed 22 posts from
Just Add Light and Stir, blog and easy free e-mail subscription.
There are 1800 others there (probably more, if you went there anytime after September 19, 2015 / )

The Big Book of Unschooling (eBook has black and white photos)
Moving a Puddle
(collection of published articles from 1992 to 2005; the eBook at Lulu has color photos)

Pages quoted and referenced, about choices and decision-making:

Make the better choice (history of the concept as I've used it)

Gradual Change


How to Screw it Up

Make the Better Choice (some English, some French)

Parenting Peacefully

Considering Decisions

Thoughts on Change

Stories of how Families Changed

About living in the moment:
No Bad Days—and fewer bad moments

Living in moments instead of by whole days

"Have to"


Becoming a Better Partner

Unschoolers and their relatives


Some of that, and some other things, in French:
Choices and Incremental Change

Part of the UCA (Unschooling Canada Association) First Annual Online Conference, September 19, 2015. This is shared by permission of the organizer, Judy Arnall, June 27, 2018. Judy Arnall is the author of several parenting books. Her newest book is Unschooling To University.

If no video shows here because of your browser or settings, please go to and start about 4:48.

NOTES and links:
She forgot France and The Netherlands. (follow-up notes from 2015)

Just Add Light and Stir

Here is a link to the Just Add Light posts in which Colleen Prieto is credited, for writing or photo: Prieto Search. There are several bird photos in that set.

I showed a couple of Karen James photos. Here are others, and some posts with quotes by her and photos by others.

Thinking About "Have To" (I said "I have to..." at 44:55. Striking, amusing, after all my advice against "have to" earlier in there.)

The study on divorce and the effect on children was reported in the book: The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce: Report of a 25-Year Study, by Judith S. Wallerstein, Julia M. Lewis, and Sandra Blakeslee

Help for beginners Beginning Things Randomizer