"When we started unschooling, my mom kept saying that she was worried I would "lose myself" in it—that I wouldn't have time for myself. She was very very wrong. I found myself and very very deep meaning to life and a much more clear sense of what's important."
"If mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy."
Someone in an exchange in 2007 had written:
I don't think anybody in the family needs to bend over backwards to make anybody else happy. Not possible, not fair even if it were.I responded:
I think the mom needs to bend over backwards.LauraB added this:
I have tried this past year to really quit acting so grumpy about everyday things such as laundry and emtpying the dishwasher. To look at it as something I want to do to help my family function smoother and help myself feel better about things. For the past two mornings my 4 year old got up and made me breakfast on his own. Yesterday he heard me talking to my mother on the phone and I mentioned that my foot was really hurting and i was having a hard time just getting the dishwasher empty. Next thing I knew he was in there doing it for me. I offered to help him finish but he said "no, I got it". At four as you can imagine he had to climb up on the counter to put it all away.
Meredith, on facebook, December 2012:
Expecting human relationships - of any kind - to be fair and equitable is a set-up for cynicism and disappointment in the human race. Human beings are marvelously varied in their needs and capabilities. It helps a whole lot to think in terms of needs and capabilities rather than rights or fairness or equality. What more can you do to support the people you love - including yourself? Kindness, grace, and generosity go a lot furthur toward creating warm relationships and a joyfully harmonious home than measuring out equality.