Quinn, Holly and Cameron
Photo by Madeline Trainor, L&L conference 2005
Teens and UnschoolingThis isn't an exhaustive FAQ, it's a collection of bits and links to help parents of unschooled teens feel confident and calm about how kids interact with the world inside and outside their families.
Karen James, in September 2016:
I was a little nervous about what to expect when Ethan entered the teen years. My own teen years were kind of difficult. I have just loved being a part of Ethan's life at every stage of development, and this one is no exception. As we walked side by side at the art gallery the other day (him noticeably taller than me now!), I felt more than ever like I was with a good friend. Our interactions were comfortable and the conversation was interesting and thoughtful. I hope he felt that way too. I'm feeling more confident. It's like when he took his first steps. I knew that meant things were going to change, but I was excited to see where his next steps would lead.
"When I was ten, my mother told me that she was going to take me out of school. At the time, I was apalled. Now, I credit that moment as the biggest turning point of my life. Not because of what we did instead of going to school, but because of the power my mother gave to me when she showed me that she did not have to abide by anyone's standards - not when she knew she could do better. She gave me to myself, for ever."—Roya Sorooshian
The quote above is lifted from something she posted on MySpace.
Just to let you all know there is an Ensign (junior officer for those who aren't familiar the terminology) on my husband's ship who was totally unschooled until she set the goal of becoming a naval officer. Even then when she chose to go to highschool for one year and on to college and naval academy it was still her choice to follow her dream and her parents just helped her to support her along the way.
She is an intelligent and sweet girl who has a whole amazing career
in front of her because her parents supported who she wanted to be
and stepped out of the way and let her go for it. So I do know
of "one" person, and I am very encouraged by her success and hope
that my children will feel free like she did to follow their dreams
regardless of what those dreams may be. Success to me is measured
by my happiness and satisfaction with my life and the relationships
within it as well. I hope my children will feel the same.
"I'm not good at anything"
Understanding angst: encouragement for the mother of a fifteen year old.
"How will they function?"
How will they know how to write essays in college classes? Cool stories of success at writing without formal training.
Will they get JOBS!?
How are they as people?
Read how 14-yr-old Brenna's life changed drastically after an unschooling conference.
Maybe not unschooled, but a good story either way: The saga of Benjamin, the backwoods, homeschool boy who wanted to get a job
YOUNG ADULTS/LATE TEENS
HOMESCHOOLER'S WEBPAGESHere are some sites by homeschoolers, on projects, arts, writing, and sometimes just their lives. If you have sites to add, e-mail [email protected] Note that they can make much nicer webpages than I can, so click and see some GREAT pages by teens:
Heather Martin talks about unschooling college and other unschooling topics.
Beach High School, "Freedom for self-direction"
Wes Beach runs a distance (or in person) program for teens who want help with a resume or a high school diploma or academic advisement and ideas. Here's a link to stories about some of his students.
contributions and suggestions are welcome!
Unschooling Teens? from a Christian unschooling page
Ideas about college, and obscure information such as Western States Undergraduate Exchange.
More on Unschoolers and College
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