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Though it cannot be guaranteed, one unexpected benefit of unschooling and peaceful parenting seems to be that children get along better with siblings. Here are some stories of peaceful sibling relations .
Sandra, I remember reading a post of yours a year or so ago where you described how you handled it when your kids were fighting. Seems like it was mostly Marty and Kirby you were talking about. You had a way of helping the underdog not feel so much the underdog and a way to help the big dog not feel outnumbered either. A good friend of mine is really bothered by how much her kids fight and I wanted to send her the post but can't find it. Could you possibly describe how you referee your kids' fights? more
It makes me crazy when I hear a mom say "They need to learn to work these things out for themselves." It's such cop-out, and such disregard for both the underdog kid AND the bullying kid, who is learning clearly that he can get away with what he can get away with, and his mother isn't going to interfere because she doesn't know or care how to make peace.
Podcast created by Amy Childs, with Sandra Dodd, Rose Sorooshian, Leah Rose, and others,
part of "The Unschooling Life" series at Unschooling Support (a site no longer available).
I personally think it’s a big mistake to give a child the responsibility for their sibling, even if it’s only implied. more
Helping children share
It's not uncommon for families to require children to take care of younger siblings, but it does suggest a situation in which that child is the powerless property of the parent. If a parent decides to respect the child's wishes and freedom and still wants him to sit with a younger child and read or play, the older child should be thought of as a free agent, another human. more
Peaceful Parenting Mindfulness
From outside the unschooling realm, consider this: Siblings Without Rivalry, by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish.