My oldest son saw my daughters listening to an iPod, each with one earplug, and went out and bought them a splitter so they could each have a full pair. He also provided them with a lot of music. And, he is teaching my daughter how to make a website. My two sons, 18 and 21, share friends and often go places together or make purchases of electronics together. I really love it when my 18yo son, 16yo daughter, and 10yo daughter retreat to the girls' rooms to listen to music and draw for the evening. Sometimes, my 10yo daughter will play videogames with her 18yo brother and they have a great time. My 16yo daughter and 10yo daughter share interest in ballet and will often talk ballet together or watch ballet videos or even practice together.
Sometimes, my husband and I will hear them all chatting and laughing together and my husband will laughingly say, "This has got to stop!" We have had strangers at restaurants tell us that they enjoy seeing how our kids get along together.
Just wanted to say that I attribute this all to being homeschooled as they have grown together instead of apart.
I just spent six weeks in Florida with my three boys (7, 9, 11). We stayed in relatively close quarters with my mother (83) and her 90 year-old partner, who is fairly conservative. Needless to say, I was a bit apprehensive about how all of this would go down (they'd never really seen our "unschooling life" up close).
Anyway, it was all fine. BUT they were absolutely blown away by (and kept commenting on) my boys' ability to get along, the fact that all three played together for hours, the relative absence of bickering, etc.
Then, we spent several days with friends in Orlando (more boys, more unschoolers) and again, the five kids just played so beautifully together and were consistently respectful of each other.
It seems to me that so much of what they're learning as unschoolers is the "true grit" of living: communication, interaction, observation, exploration, etc...and it shows!
Like you all were saying in the thread about hiring: "Gimme an unschooler any day!"
If I'd sent Zach to school, he would have started two months before Zoe was born and they probably would never have grown to know and care for each other like they do.
Chris in IA (Iowa; there was a link to a yahoogroup...)
Logan planned his 13th birthday party last week and the first person on his guest list was Brenna. I didn't expect them to be such good friends when they were teens. It's very cool.
Today, Dan and I were playing with a shape-o ball, and and Sam kept racing to pick up the pieces. Dan got really upset, and was screaming. I reminded Dan to use words to tell people how we feel, and got Sam's attention (he's a little, hm, how to say? a little boy) and Dan said "It makes me mad when you play with those right now!". Sam said sorry, and handed the shapes over to Dan. Within minutes, they were both playing a game with the shapes, and played together without fighting for about 20 minutes, at which point Sam decided to go play video games with Emily. Then Dan handed the shapes over to Avari to play with while he plays sea creatures. Now I'm a shark and need to get offline ;-)
Mom to Josh (11), Breanna (8), Emily (7), Rachel (6), Sam (4), Dan (2), and Avari Rose
Other Sibling Issues
From outside the unschooling realm, consider this:
Siblings Without Rivalry, by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish.