Best is the Mental Health page. SandraDodd.com/mentalhealth
Kate Oland wrote this, in a discussion:
I found the following book to be incredibly helpful, particularly in terms of figuring out how to remain gentle and supportive, while establishing healthy, assertive boundaries. I had three small children at the time, and was trying to be the buffer between them and their dad's pain (often expressed as anger). Although I worked hard at staying calm and gentle, I didn't actually "get through" to my husband until I also became (lovingly) firm and assertive. For example, I told him that whenever he lost control and wouldn't stop yelling, I would take the children to town for an hour and let him calm down. I spent a lot of time repeating, "I love you, but I will not let you (emotionally) harm me or the children. I will be right here when you are calm again." This book was a life-line, particularly since I wasn't able to access counselling and support for myself: How You Can Survive When They're Depressed: Living and Coping with Depression Fallout, by Anne Sheffield, 1999Here are book ordering options and the author's VERY HELPFUL website:
Canadian amazon listing, and American
Karen Angstadt, in a discussion in March 2016:
Unschooling helped me see how debilitating my depression actually was. As an average parent, or a parent of schooled kids, I might have gotten by doing nothing about my depression for a much longer period of time. But instead, I was reading here and on Always Learning. I was actively trying to be engaged with my kids. I was aiming for "sparkly", "interesting" and "interested." And I was falling short—way short.
From 2011, something Rippy Dusseldorp wrote:
It's a very nice piece of writing, originally at Always Learning: Learning to read on the list
Deb Cunefare brought a link to an article on the mechanics of depression (one element of some kinds of depression, not THE answer to ALL... ): The Brain Mechanics of Rumination and Repetitive Thinking.
It came up in a discussion at Radical Unschooling Info in which I was recommending distraction (and quoting something Meredith had written, about distraction): Distraction for when a child is worked up or agitated, but the discussion went more than one diretion, in a good way! If facebook still exists, you should be able to read that (if you have a facebook account, I mean...)
What NOT to do:
from "Don't tell mom" on facebook