Biggest Frustration..
[email protected]
I am getting going in unschooling and I wanted to know what your biggest personal frustration is with unschooling?
Sandra Dodd
-=I am getting going in unschooling and I wanted to know what your
biggest personal frustration is with unschooling?-=-
If you collect a list of people's biggest personal frustrations, that
will be time and energy spent looking at negativity, and seeing
unschooling as a negative thing.
If you avoid the things on this page:
http://sandradodd.com/screwitup
and you consider what's on this one:
http://sandradodd.com/negativity
you can probably come back and tell us some of your biggest joys with
unschooling.
Sandra
[Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
biggest personal frustration is with unschooling?-=-
If you collect a list of people's biggest personal frustrations, that
will be time and energy spent looking at negativity, and seeing
unschooling as a negative thing.
If you avoid the things on this page:
http://sandradodd.com/screwitup
and you consider what's on this one:
http://sandradodd.com/negativity
you can probably come back and tell us some of your biggest joys with
unschooling.
Sandra
[Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
keetry
== I am getting going in unschooling and I wanted to know what your biggest personal frustration is with unschooling?==
That the general public is so disapproving of unschooling.
Alysia
That the general public is so disapproving of unschooling.
Alysia
Jenny Cyphers
***I am getting going in unschooling and I wanted to know what your biggest personal frustration is with unschooling?***
I don't know. Perhaps it's just my personality, but I've never doubted that unschooling would work. I still don't. Most of my frustrations lie in external things, like coming to a head with other parents, or lack of money to do something we really want to do or buy. Treating kids kindly and respectfully and knowing that happy kids learn seems so obvious to me that sometimes it's really hard to understand other parents who treat their children so poorly, obviously so and even very subtly.
[Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
I don't know. Perhaps it's just my personality, but I've never doubted that unschooling would work. I still don't. Most of my frustrations lie in external things, like coming to a head with other parents, or lack of money to do something we really want to do or buy. Treating kids kindly and respectfully and knowing that happy kids learn seems so obvious to me that sometimes it's really hard to understand other parents who treat their children so poorly, obviously so and even very subtly.
[Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
Pam Sorooshian
> ***I am getting going in unschooling and I wanted to know what yourUnschooling isn't frustrating in the same sense as educational methods
> biggest personal frustration is with unschooling?***
can be frustrating, if that's what the question is implying. It isn't
like we're trying to make the kids do something they don't want to do.
Life is frustrating, sometimes, and unschooling is living life.
Sometimes people don't understand each other and that's frustrating.
Sometimes people have conflicting wants - that can be frustrating.
Sometimes we don't have the time or money or capability of doing what we
want. But - those are all frustrations that everybody experiences to
some degree, not just unschoolers.
-pam
k
Jenny, I'm the same way about getting unschooling. It has always been
obvious to me that it will work very well. Most people don't get it,
or not very much, even over time (thinking especially of relatives).
I'm learning ways to be ok with that and to soothe the fears of people
who will probably never get it.
Not unlike my views about religion. There are so few people I can talk
to about that here in the American South where churchgoing is still
largely taken for granted. That's sooo not a good topic to get on.
Same thing with unschooling.
That doesn't mean those topics don't come up, though. :) My favorite
tactic is to simply listen to people talk about their fears and then
respond as mildly and as little as possible. That works 99.9% of the
time. More info doesn't soothe. I used to believe the opposite. I
thought that if only people understood exactly where I'm coming from,
they wouldn't worry as much. That's just not so.
~Katherine
obvious to me that it will work very well. Most people don't get it,
or not very much, even over time (thinking especially of relatives).
I'm learning ways to be ok with that and to soothe the fears of people
who will probably never get it.
Not unlike my views about religion. There are so few people I can talk
to about that here in the American South where churchgoing is still
largely taken for granted. That's sooo not a good topic to get on.
Same thing with unschooling.
That doesn't mean those topics don't come up, though. :) My favorite
tactic is to simply listen to people talk about their fears and then
respond as mildly and as little as possible. That works 99.9% of the
time. More info doesn't soothe. I used to believe the opposite. I
thought that if only people understood exactly where I'm coming from,
they wouldn't worry as much. That's just not so.
~Katherine
On 5/23/10, Jenny Cyphers <jenstarc4@...> wrote:
> ***I am getting going in unschooling and I wanted to know what your biggest
> personal frustration is with unschooling?***
>
> I don't know. Perhaps it's just my personality, but I've never doubted that
> unschooling would work. I still don't. Most of my frustrations lie in
> external things, like coming to a head with other parents, or lack of money
> to do something we really want to do or buy. Treating kids kindly and
> respectfully and knowing that happy kids learn seems so obvious to me that
> sometimes it's really hard to understand other parents who treat their
> children so poorly, obviously so and even very subtly.
>
>
>
>
>
> [Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
>
>
>
> ------------------------------------
>
> Yahoo! Groups Links
>
>
>
>
keetry
== Unschooling isn't frustrating in the same sense as educational methods can be frustrating ==
This is so true. Once I let go of worrying about whether or not my children were learning the academic subjects that are taught in school and let go of worrying about whether they were on track with their schooled friends, so many frustrations started to float away. There's no frustration from trying to get a child to just sit down and do his work. I went through a lot of that with my oldest when he was in school and when we first started homeschooling and tried to follow a curriculum. It was miserable for everyone.
Now we just live life with the awareness that learning happens all the time in the individual's own time. There are life frustrations but they are caused by real situations that we need to learn how to negotiate for life. They aren't the same type of frustrations created by trying to force a child to do something in a way that is contrary to his natural process and being.
Alysia
This is so true. Once I let go of worrying about whether or not my children were learning the academic subjects that are taught in school and let go of worrying about whether they were on track with their schooled friends, so many frustrations started to float away. There's no frustration from trying to get a child to just sit down and do his work. I went through a lot of that with my oldest when he was in school and when we first started homeschooling and tried to follow a curriculum. It was miserable for everyone.
Now we just live life with the awareness that learning happens all the time in the individual's own time. There are life frustrations but they are caused by real situations that we need to learn how to negotiate for life. They aren't the same type of frustrations created by trying to force a child to do something in a way that is contrary to his natural process and being.
Alysia
Robin Bentley
Hey, Adam,
I noticed your post on the Life is Good conference yahoo group about
favorite blogs. This is also a good place to ask.
I think I saw your name at the conference, though I don't believe we
met. How did you enjoy it? Did you ask this question of anyone there?
Robin B.
I noticed your post on the Life is Good conference yahoo group about
favorite blogs. This is also a good place to ask.
I think I saw your name at the conference, though I don't believe we
met. How did you enjoy it? Did you ask this question of anyone there?
Robin B.
On May 22, 2010, at 1:23 PM, adamdealande@... wrote:
> I am getting going in unschooling and I wanted to know what your
> biggest personal frustration is with unschooling?
>