Notes for Adelaide

Follow-up and resources

Adelaide sessions of Australia ALLive (Always Learning Live) March 16-17, 2014

Some links that were mentioned or that might be good follow-up:

The questions from the gathering in Cairns: Cairns
Australian unschooling discussion on facebook (Unschooling Info Australia):
https://www.facebook.com/groups/unschoolinginfoaustralia/
Connections (lots of stories from various people)
Lyrics game on facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/309576582481971/
(the name I couldn't remember is: Lyrics Game, Goofin' with Songs)
Choices (with links to Choices, Decisions, "Have to" and principles vs. rules)

There were stories I told that I wouldn't have told had there been older children in the room. Because it was adults and babies, I was more candid.
Two of the stories I mentioned were written when they were new, so trust these accounts more than the one I said. I had forgotten about the phone calls, in the second incident.
Marty looks up porn
Holly is detained by police

Physicality, which I mentioned in reference to kids needing to move, sometimes, if they've been in a "be still, be quiet" situation for a while: /physicality/
Joyce Fetteroll's site: http://joyfullyrejoycing.com
Article on talking side-by-side with a child: Leaning on a Truck
When Siblings Fight
Checklists for Unschoolers: Disposable Checklists for Unschoolers
Pam Sorooshian's article on the problem with "child-led learning: Unschooling is not “Child-Led Learning” (and more by Pam Sorooshian)
Carol Rice on her son Liam starting to read:I CAN BREATHE AGAIN— MY CHILDREN FINALLY LEARNED TO READ by Carol Rice-McClure
How my kids learned to read: Sandra Dodd, three children, two reading and one mostly reading (and there's a link at the bottom to a later article, when they were a bit older)
Why I Unschooled My Three Kids (2010 interview)
Multiple Intelligences

This is brought as evidence that I really DO sometimes know the word for "conveyor belt." And because maybe some of it will be of interest, especially the link to Roxana Sorooshian's rant once about her use of "screens."

It was on facebook, when someone brought a questionable article and tagged me as a bad example of a mom.

You tagged me. That means many of my facebook friends will see your post. It's okay to refer to me without tagging me, if you want to say something negative. But because you DID tag me, it seems better to respond.

Huffington Post authors need hits to their pages to get more opportunities to be published in Huffington Post. Lists of things like that are not synonymous with research and most "research" done on how to make children better students is done by and for school and schooling (people working on advanced degrees in education so they can move up on the pay scale). The author of that article works with children who have developmental problems. Maybe she isn't very familiar with children who are not "behind," or who are not on the competitive conveyor belt at all.

How parents can ignore their own real, present, thinking children in favor of vague negativity and scare stories is a mystery.

Unschooling is not synonymous with anything. There are people who "unschool" except for…", and who "unschool mostly," but if their priorities are learning and peace, then arbitrary rules and decisions made on fear are less likely to seem like good ideas.

If an 11 year old is bummed, it might be worth really looking at his side of things. Being a child's partner in exploring the world is valuable in more ways than people can imagine, if they haven't done it. If the parent sees the child as an adversary who should be limited and made to wait until he's grown even to spend his own money, there will be more problems than they can imagine.

/partners/child
/pamsorooshian
/t/economics

Pam Sorooshian wrote: "As we get older and our kids grow up, we eventually come to realize that all the big things in our lives are really the direct result of how we've handled all the little things." —Pam Sorooshian, June 4, 2007

I have known her now-grown children since they were little. They are wonderful. They do all kinds of things, including really trusting their parents, and speaking fondly of their childhoods. They had all the TV, movies, computer-time and parental approval they wanted.

Her middle daughter, who is in graduate school, wrote this recently:
/screentime/roxana