Seeing with new eyes,
In February 2016, something beautiful was written in a discussion on facebook. I wanted to save it, but couldn't decide which page it fit best, so I created a page for it and will link to all the pages it would have gone well on, too, and link back from there to here.
Zoe Thompson-Moore wrote:
A key idea (not a rule) which has helped me as I've been deschooling and we've moved towards radical unschooling is Sandra's suggestion to be my child's partner, not their adversary. I think so far this has helped me avoid the worst pitfalls of blindly turning other ideas such as, find ways to say yes more, into hard and fast 'how to unschool' rules (given my usual tendency this would probably have led to me always saying yes with no thought for why I was saying yes more). Focussing on being my child's partner is helping me to place my real life children front and centre of my attention and to think deeply and respond kindly and appropriately to their particular needs in this particular moment.It's also here, with commentary and was originally in this discussion about strewing, rules, and choices.
Living by Principles instead of by Rules
Ideas and examples by various unschoolers about how living by principles instead of by rules
makes life with children easier and more peaceful.