Depression
NOT MUCH, but a little.

Best is the Mental Health page. SandraDodd.com/mentalhealth

Kate Oland wrote this, in a discussion:

I found the following book to be incredibly helpful, particularly in terms of figuring out how to remain gentle and supportive, while establishing healthy, assertive boundaries. I had three small children at the time, and was trying to be the buffer between them and their dad's pain (often expressed as anger). Although I worked hard at staying calm and gentle, I didn't actually "get through" to my husband until I also became (lovingly) firm and assertive. For example, I told him that whenever he lost control and wouldn't stop yelling, I would take the children to town for an hour and let him calm down. I spent a lot of time repeating, "I love you, but I will not let you (emotionally) harm me or the children. I will be right here when you are calm again." This book was a life-line, particularly since I wasn't able to access counselling and support for myself: How You Can Survive When They're Depressed: Living and Coping with Depression Fallout, by Anne Sheffield, 1999
Here are book ordering options and the author's VERY HELPFUL website:
Canadian amazon listing, and American

Author's website, Depression Fallout dot org GONE, in May 2017. I hope it comes back. Here is the main page at the Wayback Machine, but the site was set up in such a way that internal links don't seem to be working. DepressionFallout.org

Karen Angstadt, in a discussion in March 2016:
Unschooling helped me see how debilitating my depression actually was. As an average parent, or a parent of schooled kids, I might have gotten by doing nothing about my depression for a much longer period of time. But instead, I was reading here and on Always Learning. I was actively trying to be engaged with my kids. I was aiming for "sparkly", "interesting" and "interested." And I was falling shortóway short.

Serious depression will hinder successful unschooling. If you notice that it is affecting your connection with your kids, that's because depression hinders connection - with people, with learning and with life in general. It can be like existing in a fog of disconnection. And that is not good for unschooling. It's kind of the opposite of unschooling.

If you want to unschool successfully, seek treatment. It was a big effort to make the needed calls at the time. But my life and my connection to my children and my husband, have improved dramatically. I became willing to make changes when it became clear to me that I would never get the results that experienced unschoolers were posting if I did not seek treatment.

My family can see and feel the positive difference.


Deb Cunefare brought a link to an article on the mechanics of depression (one element of some kinds of depression, not THE answer to ALL... ): The Brain Mechanics of Rumination and Repetitive Thinking. It came up in a discussion at Radical Unschooling Info in which I was recommending distraction (and quoting something Meredith had writtten, about distraction):
Distraction for when a child is worked up or agitated, but the discussion went more than one diretion, in a good way! If facebook still exists, you should be able to read that (if you have a facebook account, I mean...)
Where joy is...

"Where joy is, you will find learning. Where joy is, you will find flow."
óClare Kirkpatrick
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SandraDodd.com/joy (not the source, but a companion link)
photo by Karen James

Mental Health Negativity (avoidance of) Negative approaches to peace (with suggestions of more positive ones!)