"Service" is an old word in English. It's from French. They have it from Latin. The root word is "to serve." It means to present something to someone, or to take care of someone or something. It means to be useful, to do what is needed.
In the Big Book of Unschooling, I expanded on the statement above. You can read that, and several collected responses, at SandraDodd.com/serviceResponse
Today, while making my older daughter's bed, I was reflecting on the very act itself. The girls have a bunk bed and Lila's is on the top, so I have to climb up there and she has about 20 stuffed animals--it's what I would have used to think of as a pain. Instead of feeling overworked and underpaid as I made her bed, I found myself taking extra care to make her bed very nicely because I know how good it feels to sleep in a freshly made bed. I tucked the sheets and blankets in tight and cleaned off any food crumbs. Thinking of my sweet girl, I made the bed as perfectly as I thought she would like. Her stuffed animals are placed in their special places and her bed looks very cozy and inviting. Even if she never mentions it (which I doubt she will), I feel good knowing she will appreciate the gesture.
Is this the abundance everyone talks about? This fullness of heart that I no longer think of making beds as a chore, but as an act of service and gratitude? The feeling was such a wonderful surprise!—Megan Valnes
October 18, 2016
"Lessen the suffering of others"
Neil deGrasse Tyson was asked, "What can you tell a young man looking for motivation in life itself?" He replied:The problem, often not discovered until late in life, is that when you look for things like love, meaning, motivation, it implies they are sitting behind a tree or under a rock. The most successful people recognize, that in life they create their own love, they manufacture their own meaning, they generate their own motivation.
For me, I am driven by two main philosophies, know more today about the world than I knew yesterday. And along the way, lessen the suffering of others. You'd be surprised how far that gets you.—Neil deGrasse Tyson, March 2012
Service, influence, a fertile field
In an unschooling chat in April 2009, a general discussion turned beautifully serious for a while, and I've saved that part for people to read. We had talked about England, World of Warcraft, hand-knitted socks, and we were having a good time when someone mentioned that her teenager had jumped up to help with groceries. Below is that transcript, followed by links to other things it ties in with. It was like finding a piece of a jigsaw puzzle on the floor and knowing exactly where it goes.
SandraDodd: Holly said the coolest thing the other day. She said she wondered how things might have been different if the Beatles had had names like Ian and Nigel and Rupert instead of John, Paul, George and Richard. And I said probably lots of American kids might've been named that. I said there were other names, like "Hugh," that nobody had.
JennyC: that's a cool thought that holly had
SandraDodd: She looked at me like I was all wrong and said "but there's Hugh Grant and Hugh... oh yeah..." "Laurie," she was about to say.
Then she thought of Hughie Lewis and the News.
joykelsa: insightful lady, holly is.
SandraDodd: She is. It's fun. I'm in awe sometimes of her ideas.
JennyC: sandra, i feel that way about chamille a lot
Schuyler: Ringo does an ad for Norwich insurance, which has changed its name to Aviva, that is about how he wouldn't have been the same with a different name
The original link was gone, but I found this and it should begin at the Ringo scene:
joykelsa: yes, a great commercial with ringo the first time you see. very funny.
SandraDodd: I've e-mailed that TV ad to Holly to watch later. She's at work. She'll appreciate it!
Some of what's below is in reference to a story about a boy who left home on Mother's Day once. The mom was devastated. She thought there had been a connection, but the house had many rules:no video games in the houseThose things ended with him walking out in a huge argument.
nothing but organic food and
a step-father who wasn't connecting with the boy.
Schuyler: The connection in an unschooling household or so different
JennyC: so true
Schuyler: I get invited out to the trampoline, I get kidnapped on facebook, I get asked to come and see something
JennyC: it still amazes me how mean people are to their kids and how we don't have that at all in our house
SandraDodd: I read something recently about a cook who became a cook because his parents only fed him macrobiotic foods and he hated it. He got hungry and started cookingIn the Kitchen with ... Guy FieriSandraDodd: Yesterday when Lee Stranahan was recording me and Holly we were talking about that--the differences in relationships between some unschooling teens and their families. She couldn't tell stories about her friends, though, without getting them in trouble. Seriously. The stories could end up on facebook and the parents would get angry and ground them more or longer.
After Rebelling Against His Macrobiotic Childhood, the Food Network Star Now Cooks Easy, Affordable Meals with His Own Kids—and Puts Their Favorites on the Menu
joykelsa: that's a big interest for me atm Sandra.
RVB: Unschooling parents?
JennyC: yesterday evening chamille hung out with me, just because she wanted to
SandraDodd: That right there is an indicator of the problem
Schuyler: That's a big indicator
joykelsa: so these other teens are unschoolers as well?
SandraDodd: IF Holly even said, on MySpace or Facebook, "My friend's parents are ruining her life. She's grounded for the most minor offenses, and one of the conditions of being grounded seems to be she can't even ask how long she's grounded," that kid would get in BIG trouble for having talked about it to Holly
joykelsa: sorry asked the same thing as rvb just differently.
JennyC: we have that happen a lot, and the more they control, the more the kids push back, and the more the control must be upped
SandraDodd: No, though that one was homeschooled for several years. She's 15 now
Schuyler: It is amazing the level of control that parents think they can effectively exert over their children
SandraDodd: There are some teen homeschoolers who aren't as happy as my kids, and I'm careful not to tell those stories in recognizeable ways, but sometimes I get cranky and just keep it in when one of those moms goes all braggy about how unschooling is great.
Schuyler: I know a couple of families who like the idea of unschooling but who say things like they know what their children really need.
SandraDodd: One family has lots of rules, and the mom assured me that there are families who don't do the whole radical unschooling thing and unschooling still works great.
One of her teens wrote on MySpace about not being able to wait to grow up and leave home.
Schuyler: I was thinking for a while that it was time in that made a difference.
SandraDodd: the other family has kind of surly eye-rolling kids. But that's because there are surly eye-rolling parents.
Schuyler: [the details of some families] make me think that time isn't all that matters,
RVB: Geez, has she read anything on your site, Sandra?
Schuyler: Respect is a huge thing, a massive thing
JennyC: yes, respect is big big big
SandraDodd: [yes, but some details deleted to protect feelings] Just is sure the rules aren't all that important. Maybe her husband isn't willing to let go; I don't know.
SandraDodd: I think in both cases it's negativity that's poisoned the nest
JennyC: fear and negativity
RVB: That's a biggie.
joykelsa: i think that's exactly it - the respect is forgotten about.
SandraDodd: Negativity can be fun and entertaining and all, and the frothy joy of a bitch fest can be cathartic
JennyC: my husband just went for a bit feeling that feeling of fear and negativity and I told him to stop watching the news for a couple of days and he did, and then he felt better
SandraDodd: But some people like it so much they live there
RVB: Yeah. You don't want to take up residence.
JennyC: yes, sandra, my parents live there a lot, in the fear and sarcasm
joykelsa: yes, live there and often don't even know it.
JennyC: that was hard to get out of my system
SandraDodd: Jenny, a month or so ago Keith was coming home every day with the need to discuss what he was reading on news site at work, and what his co-workers were talking about, and what was on the news, and I finally directly said that I am choosing not to watch the news, and he could too, but in any case if he filled me up not only with news, but his agitated opinion of it, I might as well start watching the news again.
Schuyler: I can get caught up in a whirlpool of negativity, it helps to have pms pushing the water, but it is amazing to have this other focus take over
RVB: My dh's family was/is like that.
SandraDodd: He got defensive, but then i think he thought about it and started reading more cartoons at work and looking at fewer news sites.
JennyC: i like to keep abreast of news here and there, but i can't do it everyday because it's way to fear inducing and full of negative things
Schuyler: I can read and watch most of the news, but I don't look at most environmental stuff Or human interest pieces
RVB: It makes a difference what you let in. Though you can go the other way and be off in some dreamworld.
Schuyler: Today I was in the kitchen making a cake and David came in and needed me to put the groceries away.
I asked Simon and Linnaea if they'd help and they both came running to the rescue
I never would have expected that
SandraDodd: A few days ago Keith went for groceries to Costco. He usually comes back with a car trunk full of stuff and we all go out and bring some in and put it away, so it's usually one trip, but with three to five worker ants. One day, though, Holly heard him pull up an yelled "Dad's Home!" and ran down to be the first to help him, and it only took two people.
Schuyler: No coercion, no force, just a request and the ability to say yes or no
RVB: Sometimes, I'll get home from grocery shopping and Michelle will come, without me asking, to bring in the bags.
JennyC: chamille does that all the time
SandraDodd: I think not many people would expect that of a 17 year old. I just kept sitting at the computer, and nobody got mad at me for it.
JennyC: she always helps bring in the groceries, i never have to ask, she just does it
SandraDodd: I've seen parents say "I shopped, you have to carry it in," and then it's not fun anymore
JennyC: she'll even put groceries away sometimes that's what chamille's best friend's dad always did
RVB: Michelle often asks for help bringing her things from the car. I helped her and mentioned I'd have to come back to get my purse and coffee. She said "well it's a good thing I'm here" and she brought my purse and coffee in!
JennyC: the kids HAD to bring in the food and put it away
SandraDodd: "Will you help me?" is way better than "You have to do it." Yucko.
joykelsa: I forwarded your email recently about Marty and doing some of his laundry to my husband. Really spoke to me. (see the box for something I found when I went to look for what Joy read recently)
I looked for the newer writing, but found this first:
Re: [AlwaysLearning] "What was I thinking" was Telling our kids the answers vs. having them figure it out themselves (someone had written:)
-=-Not that long ago, he even claimed he preferred wearing dirty socks (when we pointed out that if he just tossed them under the rubble they wouldn't get clean...)
-=-I might prefer wearing dirty socks to having my stuff referred to as rubble. It helps, it really, really helps to find joy in the things your children do. -=-
Schuyler's whole post was direct and clear and good. It's here in case anyone missed it or has deleted the mail:https://groups.io/g/AlwaysLearning/message/36332
Yesterday Keith, my partner of 30 years and husband of 24, said to me:
"It's nice to be able to throw stuff in the corner and have it come back clean."
That came up because he was packing for a camping trip, and I found him looking in laundry baskets by the dryer and asked what he was looking for. "White stuff."
"It's on the bed."
He had complimented me. It was my move. If I wanted to invest some rancor into what would lead to divorce I could have said many tacky rude things, or assured him he should be grateful, or that it was about time he said something nice about it, or that I wish someone would do that for me, or or or...
Instead I said, "Unfortunately, sometimes it only makes it as far as the den."
When the kids were little, I would put it folded in their drawers or on their shelves. I did that for Kirby until he left, because I understood his system well. Marty's was more mysterious and particular, so I'd put the stuff on his bed. Holly sorts shirts in certain ways, so I would give her the pile on the bed or in a basket.
Lately, Holly helps me sort into baskets and the baskets might go unfolded into the correct rooms. I fold mine and Keith's in our room. I hang Marty's work clothes on a rack near the dryer.
I'm telling all this because even with grown kids who could absolutely take care of themselves if I died or if they moved away, I'm still doing laundry for them because I want to free their time up to do more interesting things. I started running out of ways to express my affection and to support their interests when they had jobs and cars, but this is a thing I can still do. If I decided it was hurting me, I could turn around and hurt them. Lots of parents do that.
If I decide it's a way to show affection, I turn around and show them affection.
SandraDodd: When Keith comes in from costco, he usually reaches in to open the garage door (an electric button inside the front door) and says "I'm back!" And people who hear him go out and help.
Or maybe one will go and say "Marty's playing a game" or "Holly's on the phone," so we're all accounted for but might not all be helping.
And it's not "a rule," it's just a routine.
Schuyler: It's amazing to see doing for others as a gift.
It takes the whole angst about servitude away.
There isn't any servitude in it when it's a gift.
David just brought me tea.
He does that most nights, it is such a sweet thing.
JennyC: i just helped my husband see this
Schuyler: I just got Linnaea Dr. Pepper, she thanked me
Schuyler: The gentleness is so overwhelming, the consideration
SandraDodd: There's another level in medieval monastic thought that says the opportunity to serve is a gift
JennyC: he was feeling overwhelmed with work and seeing everything that was NOT happening, so I showed him what was happening and what our kids actually do and sent him a lot of links to stuff
SandraDodd: And I'm getting old enough to understand and feel that. It's very interesting
Schuyler: I get slightly nervous when I talk about service. I am too aware of the religious overtones
SandraDodd: One place to see it is with Diana /hahamommy
Schuyler: And too uncomfortable about them
joykelsa: yes! a gift. never knew anyone who thought like that but one in my days before my family.
SandraDodd: who realizes that when she does things for Hayden she's lucky to have a child.
Schuyler: Diana humbles me in so many ways
JennyC: me too
SandraDodd: But most people can't even relax enough to think of the gift they give someone else by bringing them a cup of tea or a Dr Pepper
JennyC: and her facebook comments are hilarious
Schuyler: The small things make me so happy
I can remember being disappointed at every Christmas, at every birthday because the big presents that I got weren't enough
And a cup of tea that David made for me can bring me to tears depending on where I am in my cycle
RVB: And it's sometimes those little things, so important to us, that others miss entirely.
JennyC: my husband and I always make tea for each other
SandraDodd: Joy, can you tell us who the one person was, before your family, who saw service as a gift?
RVB: Grand gestures are overrated, in comparison.
SandraDodd: I think it comes back to respect again.
Schuyler: Grand gestures seem to go away more quickly than do little gifts
SandraDodd: If someone gives you a blanket when you need a blanket, just because they know you need one and think you might like to have one, it's better than a hand-quilted show-piece given to someone who had blankets.
JennyC: and little gifts are easy to repeat
joykelsa: Sandra, it was an ex-boyfriend's mother. I recently talked with her for the first time in many years.
.. just as wonderful and lovely as ever!
SandraDodd: Had she explained her idea to you when you were younger, or had your boyfriend or what?
joykelsa: no. I knew she was wonderful but didn't realize how much of an impact she'd made on me until I thought about the possibility of having a child.
She would talk with her kids. We'd all go to her house. She'd tell great stories about her children. all the love and adoration of them was there in her voice.
My own mother didn't like her. I didn't understand why then.
This lady helped me to believe that there was another way to bring up children and so started my journey which eventually led me to unschooling. ..
Schuyler: I think the little gifts are about noticing need or desire or habit. David is really good at acts of service, he takes care of so many things. And because of him I've noticed things with Simon or Linnaea as well as with him
RVB: I gave my dh the gift of the benefit of the doubt. He's in France, missing us, feeling under the weather. I had written him about getting a new DS for Michelle and he replied (email) that we needed to make sure that she had to give something in return
JennyC: i love having texting ability on my phone because i can send someone an instant pleasant thought
Schuyler: I was really enjoying Facebook for that reason today
RVB: and that we couldn't do this all the time. I was about to write him back with "What exactly do you mean?" in a nasty way. Instead I talked with him on the phone and he was really sweet about it. It was a moment in time for him.
JennyC: probably guilt
SandraDodd: Robin, do you think he meant like give up a toy, or do some family service?
RVB: Chores, or her allowance or something.
Schuyler: It is a big gift to forgive grumpiness and tension in someone else— to ignore the moment of tension
RVB: Anyway, he was the first to ask me this morning if I'd bought it for her yet, in a "I hope you did" kind of voice.
SandraDodd: So now he sees it as a gift rather than something sne needs to "earn"?
RVB: Benefit of the doubt is my little gift to him.
JennyC: chamille and i talk about benefit of the doubt a lot
Schuyler: And forgetting, glossing over, not making a big deal or a fight
JennyC: assuming the best in people
RVB: Yes. It takes him a bit to get over his conditioning. His "you don't get it unless you work for it."
JennyC: that's a hard one for a lot of men i think
Schuyler: Beth Fuller talked with me a bunch about believing that everyone is doing the best that they can with what they have in that moment
joykelsa: RVB: Dh finds it hard to forget or gloss over. He takes stuff really personally, especially from Michelle. Not always, but when he's in a rough spot himself.
JennyC: well, it's nice he has a connection to his daughter, that part is really cool some dads don't care enough and hers cares a lot]
SandraDodd: Keith was more like that some years back, when Kirby was young. They had difficulty having a good relationship. But I think it was Keith's own neediness, his memories of his own childhood being stirred.
ChristineD: "believing that everyone is doing the best that they can with what they have in that moment " finally getting that through my head has made life so much more pleasant
JennyC: yes, that has happened at our house
SandraDodd: So I tried to remember to treat Keith gently and sweetly sometimes, to help him not be jealous of Kirby.
RVB: Sandra, that's exactly it for Ross.
joykelsa: Assuming the best in people! yes! that's what we've found can cause trouble for us is not doing that.
SandraDodd: not in wifely ways, but in motherly ways
RVB: It's hard to watch your child be given everything you weren't, including respect and love for who you are.
JennyC: it can be healing too
Schuyler: Or assuming that there are other things that are changing their best in that moment, that there can be environmental influences on their ability to give or receive pleasantly
RVB: He was the black sheep - still is.
joykelsa: yes, i found that here too. Can be hard for the dad to not feel the need in them.
SandraDodd: It sounds sweet and peaceful to think of people always doing the best they can with what they have. If you add "in that moment," maybe it makes it true. But what of parents who know and have and still shunt kids off?
Schuyler: It really disturbed me, the whole notion
SandraDodd: Is the justification for that that they just didn't know the importance of the attention their children needed/ ?
RVB: I think it's helpful to remember that about your own parents - the doing the best they could. I have to be really conscious of not making that my excuse not to do better.
Schuyler: But I think there are some parents who haven't decided that their children are important and the best they have has little to do with their children
SandraDodd: I think in half or more cases it's true, but I also thing that in some of the other cases there is sneakiness or malice or even evil. But maybe what I'm calling those things is another word for "really wounded and needy."
JennyC: that is something to consider for sure they can manifest themselves into yucky behavior
Schuyler: It's also about making an assumption, that people are doing the best they can, with what they have, in that moment.
JennyC: that wounded and needy child can grow up and be mean to their own children
SandraDodd: When my neighbors in back deal drugs by my back gate and shoot a BB gun into our yard when I'm out there (not aiming at me, just randomly shooting), it's hard for me to think "poor things"
Schuyler: If you have that assumption to hand at all times, maybe it lowers conflict, even if the assumption is false.
RVB: I don't want to say to myself "I'm doing the best I can" and have that be enough. It can be helpful in the moment, I guess.
Schuyler: I don't think I ever say that to myself
RVB: Yeah, Schuyler. It's can be a total cop-out.
Schuyler: I know a couple of parents who compete with their children for attention and praise
JennyC: oh yeah, i have a friend like that
SandraDodd: Thanks for being here. We can quit if you guys want. I'm saving the end part, about kids bringing in groceries, and service as a gift
Schuyler: I want to be better than my grouchy self
RVB: No kidding!
SandraDodd: I think I wince at those sweet justifications because people do use them to justify behaviors.
Schuyler: And if that was the best I had in that moment than I don't want to be that limited again
SandraDodd: My "make the better choice" tool has helped me move from "acceptable" to "better" and then MORE better.
Schuyler: If I can make that assumption about other people it may help me to get along or to cut my losses
RVB: Mo bettah!
Schuyler: More better is a nice place to be Mo bettah!
JennyC: it's nice to catch yourself in the moment and do better. The more you do it, the easier it is to do it
RVB: Yes! If I think it of other people, it releases me from wanting them to be different.
SandraDodd: Schuyler do you mean cut your losses by disengaging from people whose best isn't in your range of "good enough"??
Or to see the relationship as about something else
Like their kids are friends of Simon and Linnaea
JennyC: I've done that schuyler
SandraDodd: This part's going to be hard to edit. People are saying "yep" and YES!
SandraDodd: to things that passed by
RVB: In fact, if I think it of Michelle, it gives her space to get better. Oh just ignore my yesses, Sandra!
ChristineD: for me it helps to think that they're doing the best they can with what they've got and then see what it is they're working with, not as an excuse so much as a tool to broaden how I see them
SandraDodd: Holly and Marty are both good at seeing people realistically. They might be exasperated but they know some people have limited understanding or ability.
I *know* it, but it still pisses me off sometimes.
Schuyler: I like the story of Ben and ...Marty (I cut out some story here...)
JennyC: chamille is good at that too, and waaaay more accepting than I am of people's shortcomings
SandraDodd: but because I have this added SCA life, I've had some very touching and almost too sweet to tell without embarassment instances of service as a gift, of tiny things that would 'bout make me cry from my SCA students.
I got a thank you note for a wedding gift from one of my former proteges, and he's done some very touching things. The mail had just come and the note from Cathyn was in it; I didn't clarify that I had just opened it, during the chat.
Schuyler: I was told that God didn't know I existed because I hadn't been baptised or christened
SandraDodd: And Ben/Dermod, too. Though he's unreliable about showing up, when we're "in persona" and at an event he can stun me with little gestures
Schuyler: It made me question his omniscience.
I was loud
SandraDodd: (Schuyler, how could God not know that!? He knows when a sparrow falls.)
And surely God monitors the internet
RVB: You must have made a big impact on your proteges, Sandra, for them to respond so.
Schuyler: That's a fair bit of porn he's got in his inbox then
JennyC: invisibility before being spiritually doused in water, it sounds very sci-fi
Schuyler: She got called by the guy whose car she hit. This woman touches people
SandraDodd: And the reason I mentioned "respect' way up there in the chat is that when one of them does something like that it might be partly because they're "playing their part" but sometimes like when nobody's even looking, it seems to be because they have the urge to express something toward me and it comes out in a service or courtesy rather than in words. And I've done things for them, too, and felt that same way.
RVB: And it's more private than public.
JennyC: I like paying things forward
because sometimes i can't for whatever reason pay someone back and i don't like the guilt, so paying forward has been good for me
Schuyler: It is amazing when you don't need to hear thank you, doing it was enough
RVB: It's a whole different attitude, Schuyler.
Schuyler: I always seem to need acknowledgement, and it is stunning when I don't, at least for me
SandraDodd: Jenny, I just read what I missed because I was writing, but yes! She was invisible until the water hit her.
Isn't there something like that Predator?
Schuyler: And so far no water
Schuyler: Linnaea likes the idea that if someone doesn't bless her after she's sneezed she can be possessed for a while
JennyC: i told chamille that story and she loved it
SandraDodd: I hope she sneezes while I'm there. I'll save her
Schuyler: It gives her moments to be evil
RVB: We say "You're so good looking" ala Seinfeld.
SandraDodd: Schuyler, I think this: It is amazing when you don't need to hear thank you, doing it was enough is the "service as a gift" to the server.
SandraDodd: What is it you were saying bothered you about that? The Christian angle of it?
Schuyler: It is wonderful to have people to care for
The idea of service strikes me as a very Christian idea
SandraDodd: You're afraid it will somehow transubstantiate itself into water and you'll be visible?
Schuyler: I'm sure it is also a very Buddhist idea and other things
JennyC: and not doing service can be very guilt inducing
Schuyler: I don't want to touch the water
RVB: More like sacrifice, Schuyler?
SandraDodd: (Visible to God, I mean... I've seen photos of you, so you're not a vampire...)
Schuyler: I think I may have taken communion though... Special camera...
SandraDodd: Ah JEEZ, you can't take communion if you're not baptized!
Schuyler: No mirrors, pinhole camera
SandraDodd: It doesn't work.
It will be like poison or something.
Schuyler: That explains the vomiting
RVB: But you're sparkly, Schuyler. Like the Forks vampires
Schuyler: I'm sparkly?!! I love that! Thank you!
RVB: You're welcome.
Schuyler: I was raised in a Catholic neighborhood.
The fact that god didn't know me was about all my catholic neighbors being appalled at the Unitarian on the block
JennyC: i'll bet there were lots of woopins going on in your neighborhood
Schuyler: I got wooped No sticks or belts, just hands
RVB: By Unitarians?
Schuyler: By Unitarians
JennyC: a hold over of protestanism
o gosh i can't spell
Schuyler: I like your attempts
RVB: Protestantism. My gift to you.
JennyC: thank you
Schuyler: I like the idea of a protestantism, the religion of protesters protestanims it's contagious
RVB: Too bad it's as bad as the original. Or worse. original
Schuyler: It's typing tongue twisters
SandraDodd: I like those typings. Jenny's second one looks like it has SATAN in the middle
JennyC: i protest
Schuyler: Or Stan, his less evil brother This reminds me of "Stan and Dan." See note at the bottom of the page. —Sandra
RVB: A new religion!
SandraDodd: The neighbor of the beast
Schuyler: Simon and Linnaea love that 616 is the new number of the devil
RVB: Coffee's coming out my nose. Ouch.
JennyC: is it, i haven't read the news today
RVB: There's a new number?
SandraDodd: Keith came home. I went out to see if he's sick or what. He went to sleep early last night and now he's home early, but he says he's fine. Why'd they renumber the devil?
Apparently 666 is the fax number?
JennyC: 6 was always my favorite number as a child, not a good fav for a christian kid
RVB: 666 is the fax number. ROFLMAO.
SandraDodd: Keith said "So a whole new area code is evil now, huh?"
JennyC: i wonder if one could text to the number 666
Schuyler: Stephen Fry said it first, or Alan Davies, or somebody on QI
RVB: It's Michigan!!!
SandraDodd: I wonder if very Christian towns leave "666" off their address grids like some high rise buildings go 11, 12, 14, 15...
Or *maybe* they could save 666 and zone it only for a bar or strip club
RVB: Now they'll have to leave 616 off, too. Whole chunks of the city will be missing.
Schuyler: And adult bookstores Only if people read about 616, they can ignore it until forced to pay attention to it
SandraDodd: Well on those streets they could put a church in the whole block and the address would be 602
JennyC: yes they do! 666 was a prefix phone number of a town near me and they changed it to 669 because too many residents complained
Schuyler: 69 is a good alternate...
RVB: It would be fun to purposely find that address and open a gay & lesbian bookstore or adult toys store or....
JennyC: i liked that irony too
SandraDodd: Ooh.... like Satan and Saddam in the South Park movie, 669
JennyC: yes, OMG! you guys are making me laugh!
RVB: Maybe the writers of the Bible were dyslexic and it's actually 999 or 919....
Schuyler: Avoid numbers at all costs
SandraDodd: I don't know what hebrew numerals look like
[—then we joked about someone's sex-offender neighbor, but I shall spare all involved—]
Schuyler: God's probably busy monitering the internet
SandraDodd: Write a book Schuyler. "Invisible like me"
JennyC: yes, please write a book schuyler
SandraDodd: And then at the end you could reveal that you were never really invisible, it was just makeup
Schuyler: I can't maintain a blog, how could I write a book...
SandraDodd: (You all might be too young for that reference; sorry...)
SandraDodd: There was a 60's book called Black Like Me
Schuyler: I loved the book Black Like Me
JennyC: or an invisibility cloak
Schuyler: I don't know how little melatonin to take to be invisible anti-melatonin
But maybe that just makes me albino like me
JennyC: that would make you blonde in the UK
[earlier we had talked about how few Brits are blond]
...and we said goodbye and that was about it. I left the end part because it led to reading about Hebrew numerals and whether 666 might look like 616 or 999. Here's an example from that page:
“Monday, 15 Adar 5764” (where 5764 = 5(×1000) + 400 + 300 + 60 + 4, and 15 = 9 + 6):In full (with thousands):
Monday, 15(th) of Adar, 5764
יום שני ט״ו באדר ה׳תשס״ד
Common usage (omitting thousands):
Monday, 15(th) of Adar, (5)764
יום שני ט״ו באדר תשס״ד
Here's my kids' favorite "Stan and Dan" bit from Sesame Street. We still quote it.
This isn't the greatest closing for a page on service, but... perhaps it's a service to appreciate the individuality of siblings and friends and to support rather than begrudge, envy or copy, if possible. Stan and Dan were mentioned in the chat transcript above. :-)
The wonderfulness of others will not diminish you. Your realization of the wonderfulness of others will enlarge you. (from the Humility page)
(In case that one disappears: http://www.truveo.com/Sesame-Street-Stan-and-Dan/id/4282466453)
Service as a gift Raising a Respected Child Gratitude Abundance