Last night, my sister's family visited for Christmas Eve dinner. I had a plate of sugar cookies out as part of the evening's food, and her children and my son both had two cookies. My son had also had three cookies just before they arrived—I know because he had asked "if I eat three, will we still have enough for company?"

My sister's children are not allowed sugar except on the most rare of occasions (including Christmas). When they do have things with sugar in them, it's only after begging their mother "Please, please can I have one?? Just one?? Please!!! I won't be crazy—PLEASE!!!"

Last night, in order for the 6-year-old to Earn the second cookie, she had not only had to beg and promise—but she also had to choose one protein item to eat first. The child didn't want a protein item and said so clearly ("NO I don't WANT to choose a protein—and especially NOT cheddar cheese!!!"). My sister persisted, and the child finally chose a small piece of Colby Jack cheese, and the biggest cookie she could find on the plate. The other child wasn't required to have a protein in order to get a second cookie, apparently because he ate a plate of white rice with soy sauce—and that was deemed sufficient.

After they had their cookies, despite promises to the contrary, they indeed did go quite crazy with happiness—they were bouncing around the house, running down the hallway, and being very loud. My sister told my mother in a loud enough voice for everyone, including the children, to hear, "I shouldn't have let them eat the cookies."

Instead of joining that conversation :-) I asked the kids to slow down, and suggested we open presents (so they'd have something to do besides chase each other about :-)). They excitedly tore open their gifts, and then expressed immediate disappointment that they had not received more. The 9-year-old announced loudly that next year, he thought people should buy many more things, so he'd have more to open. The six year old said "that's it??"

My sister shrugged her shoulders and said flatly, "It's the sugar."

Despite all the sugar he'd consumed ;-) my son (who'd had more cookies than his younger cousins) had not been running all about or screaming, and was not complaining about his presents. He was happily chatting with people, and opening one gift at a time—thanking everyone for what he'd received, and then playing with what he'd opened. When he heard my sister blame the sugar for the way her kids were acting, he whispered to me "somehow I don't think it's the sugar— I think they're just really excited but they don't know how they're supposed to act about gifts and parties."

I don't believe for one second it was the sugar making my niece and nephew crazy. :-) I think they were excited to be at a family gathering, excited to be allowed to eat a treat that they are normally denied, and left without coaching on how to calm down in a big group of people, how to say polite thank-yous, and how to think thoughts without saying them about "not enough" or "wish there was more." I think they were feeding off my sister's fears about what sugar would Do To Them, and that was revving them up even more. I think they love opening gifts (since gifts are also holiday-and-birthday-only things in their lives) and they didn't want the opening of them to end. I think if sugar were the demon responsible for their behavior, my son would have been at least a little crazy since he'd had more—and he didn't balance it with protein til much later in the day.

That's just anecdotal evidence—not a study. Someone could argue that my son can process/handle/whatever sugar, and the other children couldn't. Or someone could argue that he's immune to its effects and the other children aren't. Or someone could argue lots of other things.

*Or* instead, someone—everyonex—could help their children enjoy treats, enjoy parties, and enjoy presents without looking for demons in the food, or the air, or the water, or anywhere else. That'd be pretty cool.

Maya wrote a retrospective on ten years of unschooling which included:

There are so many struggles I hear other homeschooling families talking about that we have completely avoided, and with barely any awareness of doing so, just by applying the principles here; the food control struggles, the sleep/bedtime struggles, the video game/"screen time" issues, the "trying to get them to do their work/chores/workbook" issues. Man, all I can think when I hear moms ranting about these things is what a waste of time.