Sandra, I thought I would forward this on to you anonymously—just in case you wanted to include it somewhere. She's a regular reader on your list, so I'm hesitant to give names. She'll mention it herself when she's ready, I'm sure.

But it's another thumbs up for Retrouvaille.


To: Kelly Lovejoy
Sent: Thu, Mar 11, 2010 9:34 am
Subject: Thanks

Hi Kelly.

Retrouvaille was a weekend of many eye opening discoveries, and the benefits have been great, opening much for us that was previously unattainable. Thank you from the bottom of our hearts for telling us about Retrouvaille. In particular it has cleared up a great deal of strife in the area of religious hangups, something that has always been difficult for us to talk about other than to focus on disagreement. Talking about the feelings behind the thoughts has been pretty major!

Thanks again & Love to you and Ben


Someone complained with feeling that my page on divorce had a note from Kelly Lovejoy saying that Retrouvaille was free. When she and her husband looked into it, there was a registration fee, and they wanted donations. This was enough to tip that couple away from using the service.

So, for the record, there are an increasing number of these workshops in different parts of the country, and perhaps they aren't as cost-free as they were when Kelly and Ben went, years ago.

Find the money. It's less expensive than a lawyer, even if you make a fat donation. It's less expensive that one month of maintaining two houses.

From their website in early 2010:

What does the Program Cost?

Each couple is asked to make a donation to help cover the cost of the program. This one donation covers all the expenses of the weekend and the post-weekend sessions. Weekend lodging, meals and materials are all covered by this single donation.

Costs vary from location to location. Contact the Retrouvaille community closest to you for specific information about the amount of donation they request. A registration fee is required when you register for the program to confirm your accommodations. Space is limited so early registration is encouraged.

No couple is ever denied the chance to heal and renew their marriage because of lack of funds.

Unschooling Spouses (some encouraging words and images)

Some reality checks concerning divorce

Becoming a Better Partner

If you're considering separation, read this

SpousesUnschooling can make us better partners!

An outside link with a great list of things to strengthen a marriage: The Best Advice on Marriage

(The website is gone, but the WayBack Machine saved some, so the list is still available.)