The notes are sparse, the talks are long, even though that first one ends abruptly.
Michaelangelo said that to carve his statue of David, he just chipped away everything that didn't look like David. Or maybe he didn't say that. But clearly that's what he ultimately did. Here will be ideas to help you chip away what doesn't look like unschooling. It's not as difficult as you might think.
Found this quote on Joyce Fetteroll's page, with my name on it:
One easy way to decide how to be is to picture clearly what would make things worse, and then not do that. —Sandra Dodd
More about that one here. (Partial-to-full transcript, at some point.)
Below are notes for this one. You can download a file, if you would rather listen elsewhere.
My mom was not my partner. I was her foe. I was her rival.
Things partners don't say:
You made your bed; now lie in it.Those statements, in that tone, are made to separate, to isolate, to "win."
That's not my problem.
Now what are you going to do?!
Well good luck with that.
34:20 "Water handed to you nicely is a lot nicer than water slammed at you and sloshed."
Seeing and avoiding adversarial relationships. Nurturing partnerships with spouses or significant others, and with our children.
← ← ← Those "work in" notes to myself have become live links, here.
Work in "serving others as a gift."
Ask "what is your relationship with your child?" The boss? The friend? VARIES depending on project—sometimes I'm the coach or the lead. Sometimes I'm not. Sometimes I'm a stagehand. Sometimes I'm the soloist. Sometimes my child is the soloist.
What happens with partners is that when one is the soloist, the others still sing backup, or sit in the audience supportively, and meet them at the stage door, figuratively or literally.
I left Sandra's talk on "partnerships in the family" a changed woman. I bought her book and could feel old reasonings about bedtime, math, reading and eating breaking in my head and my heart.Heather Booth wrote that and you can read more of it.
But wait! A week after I wrote this paragraph, I discovered that it has been uploaded to YouTube, by the filmmakers. Sweet.
It needs to be watched rather than just heard, as the questions are put up on visually without voice-over.
All ages if reading and writing.
Cultural taboos involving words, and some history of "bad words."
I created two files after that conference:Bad Words
Bad Words 2 (a continuation)
Connecting the dots, literally and figuratively. Come and work on your model of the universe. Materials will be provided, and we'll use "Thinking Sticks" for part of the workshop. The theme will be water. If you have obstacles to dot-connecting, bring those too.
Water, flowing off a mountain—where does it go? Partly depends how much of it there is. (quote the thing from Hawaii about coral bouncing up on mountains)(I wish there was a recording of that one, but there doesn't seem to be.)
But water has a super-hero power. It can evaporate into thin air. (Not all of it, because at some point the air isn't thin anymore and the water falls back out.)