How much is "enough"?

Karen James, from a post on Always Learning in July 2014:
I believe, as unschooling parents, it is best to focus on providing the best possible environment we can for our children to ensure they learn and thrive with lots of room to discover and explore their own strengths, and plenty of uncoerced opportunities to develop in places that might present more challenges. In my opinion unschooling will work well for children of all abilities when the focus is on partnering with the whole child. Look at your child. Not at what you think about your child. Not about what others tell you about your child. Look at her whole self. Encourage others to see her this way too, if and when you can.
Am I doing enough?
I asked the same question a few years back. I got an excellent, but unexpected reply. I was told if I thought I wasn't doing enough, then to do more. Now, if our unschooling days start to feel a bit stale to me, I try to make them lively again by using what I know about my son to introduce something(s) fresh to our experience. Doing this has never lead me astray. It might take me in a completely different direction from what I had in mind, but, to me, that's a big part of the fun of this life.

Karen James

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Virgina Warren wrote:
Worrying feels like *doing something*, maybe because it is so time-consuming and exhausting.

Every moment we spend worrying about if we're doing "enough" is a moment in which we could be doing something to improve our relationships, even if it's nothing more than lifting our own mood.

When we're worrying we don't know something, we could be doing research.

When we're worrying our children don't have enough friends, we could be palling around with them ourselves.

When we're worrying our children don't eat the right amount or type of food, we could be making a nice meal for ourselves.

June 4, 2018, at Radical Unschooling Info on facebook

For a mental massage about what to do and why, go to Just Add Light and Stir.

Some posts in particular, to match this topic:

Enough or not; too much or not Wednesday, May 18, 2016; the comments are good there, too

Do what it takes

Do more


Am I doing enough? (that one leads back here).

Doing enough?

Are you doing enough? Are your kids looking at you expectantly, or are they busy off doing something fun? Have they seen the cool touristy stuff in your town already? "Field trip" kind of stuff? Do you let them do it at their own pace, and "quit early" if they want to? Do they have things to play with and build with and draw on and mess with? Do they have opportunities (if they want) to ride bikes, skateboards, climb something, jump on things? Are you looking for opportunities for them to hear live music or see theatre?

If you feel like you're not doing enough, do more.

SandraDodd.com/mha (an obscure page)
photo by Rippy Dusseldorp

For a deeper understanding of unschooling, Pam Larrichia's books and introductory e-book are good.



Disposable Checklists for Unschoolers