Pam Sorooshian

A long time ago, probably almost 20 years ago, I read something that I thought of hundreds and hundreds of times since. Sandra described it here (http://sandradodd.com/badmoment):
"I had only been online a couple of years when someone on AOL wrote one of the best things ever, and it changed my life the moment I read it. She said she didn't think of a day as "bad," as she didn't want to condemn or write off a whole day. She said she would just think "I had a bad moment.""

So I've had this idea in my head nearly 20 years and have tried to pass it along to my kids. 

Rosie (23 years old) told me this last night:

A few days ago she had college finals and was stressed about that and then people kept flaking on plans they'd made. She was feeling cranky and things just kept happening and she couldn't seem to shake a bad mood that lasted all day. Later she had a nice dinner with her fiance and had a great evening.

She said she was thinking about that day and suddenly the thought occured to her that that is what people must mean when they say 'I had a bad day.' She realized she had never HAD one of those - never an entire 'bad day,' just bad moments that she got over fairly quickly.  And then she thought about how she still hadn't really had an entire bad day because she'd had a really nice evening.

It doesn't mean she hasn't experienced serious loss and tragedy because she has. She's talking about just the kind of "this day sucks" mood that people mean when they say, "I'm having a bad day."


-pam

Cheryl Elliott

Thank you, Pam. I'm not currently having a "bad moment," but I certainly have had my share over the years. I read in the link where Su describes her son leaning into her and I just started bawling. I'm so thankful that my children experience life from more innocent eyes, as some of my moments have just been too overwhelming and "bad" in my eyes. It's a good reminder to not harden myself and brace myself with the expectation of more "bad" as then I won't be soft enough to experience that child leaning into me. And also, to look for the good and live in that moment, extend that moment to be a minute, an hour, a day, a lifetime.


~Cheryl

Gwen Montoya

Bad moments, not bad days has gotten me over more than one (or twenty!) rough patches so the kids and I could go on to have an awesome rest of the day!

Gwen


On Thu, May 22, 2014 at 12:05 PM, Cheryl Elliott icae@... [AlwaysLearning] <[email protected]> wrote:
Thank you, Pam.  I'm not currently having a "bad moment," but I certainly have had my share over the years.  I read in the link where Su describes her son leaning into her and I just started bawling.  I'm so thankful that my children experience life from more innocent eyes, as some of my moments have just been too overwhelming and "bad" in my eyes.  It's a good reminder to not harden myself and brace myself with the expectation of more "bad" as then I won't be soft enough to experience that child leaning into me.  And also, to look for the good and live in that moment, extend that moment to be a minute, an hour, a day, a lifetime.


~Cheryl


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