luckyroy3

I really like this concept, Sandra. It is so much more important to focus on principles, rather than rules. I can see I have definitely been a "rules" mom, rather than a "principles" mom.

Verna

--- In [email protected], "luckyroy3" <luckyroy3@...> wrote:
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> I really like this concept, Sandra. It is so much more important to focus on principles, rather than rules. I can see I have definitely been a "rules" mom, rather than a "principles" mom.
>

I have been thinking about this alot lately too... I always figured my 3 biggest problems were that 1. I cant remember the rules! 2. I am so inconsistant when it comes to all of them 3. I want to be a Mom, not a COP. My mom comes and visits and comments all the time that I just need to make this a rule or that a rule. I am always trying to explain to her that if I cant remember all the rules how are my kids going to. I am trying hard to wrap my brain around principles... I can remember them.

Jenny C

>>>I am always trying to explain to her that if I cant remember all the
rules how are my kids going to. I am trying hard to wrap my brain around
principles... I can remember them.>>>
>

One of the kids that live near us, said rather astonished, "you don't
have any rules do you?" I looked at him and said, "yes we do, they are,
play nicely and behave kindly." He didn't think those were rules, and
they aren't really, but that's where it all seems to come down to. A
rule of no hitting, could be summed up nicley with "be nice", because
clearly hitting isn't nice. Being nice, covers it all.

A kid could easily not break the rule of "no hitting", by pinching or
kicking, and completely get away with it, and feel pretty darn good
about getting away with being mean without getting in trouble. If the
idea is to "be nice", pinching or kicking won't work.

Sandra Dodd

I went to add Jenny's quote to the principles page, which I did. I
also added it to the Jenny Cyphers page. But on the principles page I
found this:

" Living from principles, rather than fears, is the easiest way to
grok unschooling, as far as I can tell. (But maybe it isn't easy,
because it took me a long time to figure that out for myself, haha. I
was all, 'what is all this rules vs. principles stuff anyway?' Now, in
my unschooling, it seems like the most important part.)"


It was by Maya, at the Family RUNning site.

http://sandradodd.com/principles
http://sandradodd.com/jennycyphers
http://familyrun.ning.com/forum/topic/show?id=2184370%3ATopic%3A32341&page=3#comments

(If that cuts off, the link is also at the first link above.)

Sandra

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