Sandra Dodd

-=-How does unschooling teach a child to assess a situation socially?
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This is the second of these questions that started "How does
unschooling teach..." and there's another one down the list.



Unschooling isn't an entity, and teaching isn't the goal.

I will rephrase the question.

How does an unschooled child learn to assess social situations?

Now I will suggest that perhaps the original question was written by
someone who believes that school kids are taught "to assess a
situation socially." And I will leave that to go back to unschooling.



My children learned to assess situations by living in the real world
their entire lives, with loving adults and older friends nearby to
help them gently and kindly to be comfortable and confident.

My children have assessed situations socially in ways some adults
never have and never could.

My children grew up without being crushed, shamed or wounded in the
ways that are accepted by schools every single day,and in many cases
the crushing, shaming and wounding come from the school's
administration directly in the form of punishments and grades.

My children assess situations as easily as they walk and speak (and
I'm grateful that they can do all those things, because not everyone
can). Unschooling didn't teach them to do that. Experience and
living peacefully in a whole world gave them the opportunity to
practice and learn.

http://sandradodd.com/intelligences

interpersonal and intrapersonal

Sandra




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Sandra Dodd

Oh. #9 had two parts. I thought it was going to be a new questions,
because of the format.

How does unschooling teach a child to assess a situation socially?
Meaning, if a child has been catered to their entire life how do they
learn to give of themselves or take a passive role in a situation?



We just talked about that earlier today too, about teens! So to the
person who asked all these questions, if you've joined the list, go
to the archives and read earlier on Sunday and on Saturday, about the
relationships between teenaged unschoolers and their parents.

http://sandradodd.com/teen

http://sandradodd.com/teens

http://sandradodd.com/teen/benefits.html

http://sandradodd.com/partners/

http://sandradodd.com/spoiled

http://sandradodd.com/balance



Also, I think "being catered to" (not a nice way to put that; very
snarky) IS a passive role, so the second part of the question isn't
better than the first.




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