Verna

My son J is almost 7. He has so many interests and loves to be out
and about and playing with friends. When he was younger we lived in
a house that backed up to another house where his friend Eli lived.
The boys didnt play together all that often as Eli was in school and
split his time at his dads house but when they could they got
together and really always had a connection. The other family moved
away in the spring and in the summer we moved. J still talks about
Eli alot. They have seen each other once or twice last summer but
not any in about a year. I tried to keep in touch but his mother
works full time, lives about 1 1/2 hours away and has to commute an
hour to work etc...has 4 kids under 8. Every so often J asks about
Eli, will he ever see him again.. I breaks my heart but I dont know
really what to do. I asked him tonight, what about Eli made him
special? thinking maybe I could help him find another friend like
that. But, he just looked like he was going to cry and said, "he is
Eli". He says he has no other friends like him. It breaks my heart
that I havnt been able to help him find other friends that he has
that connection with, feels that comfortable with etc.. I guess I
dont really know what my question is. It is just hard to see him so
sad and I feel like I am not doing enough.
I will try to get in touch with Eli's mother again but havnt had much
luck the last few times. She is very scattered and busy.

space_and_freedom

--- In [email protected], "Verna" <lalow@...> wrote:
>
> My son J is almost 7. He has so many interests and loves to be out
> and about and playing with friends. When he was younger we lived in
> a house that backed up to another house where his friend Eli lived.
> The boys didn't play together all that often as Eli was in school and
> split his time at his dads house but when they could they got
> together and really always had a connection. The other family moved
> away in the spring and in the summer we moved. J still talks about
> Eli alot. They have seen each other once or twice last summer but
> not any in about a year. I tried to keep in touch but his mother
> works full time, lives about 1 1/2 hours away and has to commute an
> hour to work etc...has 4 kids under 8.

If you are able to make the drive, and if the Mom would be okay with
it, then you could drive out there, pick up Eli and take the boys to
the park for a few hours.

This would lower the time investment for Eli's Mom. She wouldn't have
to worry about transportation or entertaining another adult.

If that worked, then you could set up a preplanned playdate for once a
month - weather permitting.

Also, if you can only manage a meeting like that once, bring a camera
and take lots of photos.

Jen H.
space_and_freedom

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Sandra Dodd

-=-If you are able to make the drive, and if the Mom would be okay with
it, then you could drive out there, pick up Eli and take the boys to
the park for a few hours.-=-



I like that idea. In the meantime, maybe you could send him a card
or letter with photos so he knows J is still thinking of him.



Sandra

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