now it's "spoiling" according to DH
halfshadow1
How can i let my dh understand it's not spoiling when i suggest
redirecting our son when he wants to run around a store or when i
suggest other ways to meet his needs when we are out and about but ds
is bored,whiney, just high energy. and i offer suggestions but my
husband says that i'm spoiling him because he thinks our son should
just *behave*
thanks
p.s. son is 6yo
redirecting our son when he wants to run around a store or when i
suggest other ways to meet his needs when we are out and about but ds
is bored,whiney, just high energy. and i offer suggestions but my
husband says that i'm spoiling him because he thinks our son should
just *behave*
thanks
p.s. son is 6yo
Sandra Dodd
-=-How can i let my dh understand it's not spoiling when i suggest
redirecting our son when he wants to run around a store-=-
You could ask your husband how he intends to enforce "just behave."
Maybe talk about the principle of learning everywhere all the time,
and that you're not in the store to be photographed as a perfect
family. But more importantly, why is your son in the store?
If learning is more important that being still, that helps. If it's
a store with carts, would her ride inside the big part of a cart?
(I'm picturing a home improvement store with the big carts...)
Asking your husband things like "Why?" and "How?" and "What's the
purpose" might help. Does your husband want him to behave so that
your husband can shop as though the son isn't there? (He might just
not have thought abut it much.) Stores can be a great place for
learning. You can talk about things you don't own.
Sandra
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redirecting our son when he wants to run around a store-=-
You could ask your husband how he intends to enforce "just behave."
Maybe talk about the principle of learning everywhere all the time,
and that you're not in the store to be photographed as a perfect
family. But more importantly, why is your son in the store?
If learning is more important that being still, that helps. If it's
a store with carts, would her ride inside the big part of a cart?
(I'm picturing a home improvement store with the big carts...)
Asking your husband things like "Why?" and "How?" and "What's the
purpose" might help. Does your husband want him to behave so that
your husband can shop as though the son isn't there? (He might just
not have thought abut it much.) Stores can be a great place for
learning. You can talk about things you don't own.
Sandra
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jenstarc4
> How can i let my dh understand it's not spoiling when i suggestds
> redirecting our son when he wants to run around a store or when i
> suggest other ways to meet his needs when we are out and about but
> is bored,whiney, just high energy. and i offer suggestions but myHow are kids supposed to learn how to "behave" unless we show them
> husband says that i'm spoiling him because he thinks our son should
> just *behave*
> thanks
> p.s. son is 6yo
>
another better way? I think redirecting is the best way to
demonstrate another better way to behave in a store.
Just for the record, I don't think I've ever seen a 6 yo silently
comply with behaving like a little minature adult in a store. A
happy kid is generally the best behaved sort of kid in a store, the
kids being punished and yelled at are usually the loud and reckless
ones.
On some occasions, I simply can't take my 6 yo to the store because
there would be no way to help her be happy with it. It's good to
recognize when to leave the store with an unhappy child and go wait
out in the car and listen to music. Heck, sometimes, I don't feel
like going to the store, only I know how to "behave", but even so,
the experience isn't the same as going when I want to go and enjoying
my time there.