wisdomalways5

I feel like sharing this *it works* example

My daughter cassie (4) sleeps on the couch and durning the day she
is usually on the couch. Other daughter Dani(2) camps out in a
basket with pillows.

Cassie came home today and crashed on *her* couch, the problem was
that just minutes before Dani was hanging out on the couch. They
both wanted the couch without the other one.

They proceeded to scratch and pull at each other. I took them both
and said we do not hurt each other we can work this out. Cassie
proceeded to scream at the top of her lungs and Dani tried to bury
her head in the pillows.

I sat between them and started talking about how each one wanted the
couch and there had to be some way to work it out.

Ideas--
sit on both ends
cassie couch dani basket
Older brother said Dani gets it she never gets it
dad said cut it in half
dad said buy a new recliner
I said lay together

after a few minutes of negotiating and nothing working
I got up off the couch

Cassie took the cushions off the couch and *made* her own couch on
the floor and got pillows for Dani to cushion her couch.

The point is they found a way to make it work and on their own- not
because I made them share or took sides or made it fair.

Thank you all for being there to teach me how to respect both my
kids and others. It is not my way or your way it can all be worked
out somehow when you put enough brain cells to it.

JulieH