Don't know if I have the courage, but I'm beginning to think I "get it"
kgmomgo
Hi everyone,
I just found you a few days ago, and thought I'd introduce myself.
I'm Heather, married SAHM, with 2 children. DS Chase is 3 1/2,
Kylee is 13 mos today. My husband and I decided to homeschool 2
years ago, but are still working on our philosophy and method plan.
I'm interested in unschooling, but don't know if I'll have the
courage to stick with it. Love takes courage and patience and joy
and fortitude. What's the connection? It occured to me that all
parents, especially those who take the time to homeschool love
their children. They want what's best, at least in their own
minds. People who unschool are IN LOVE with their children.
They've never lost the awe a parent has when gazing at a newborn and
marveling at the combination of potential and innate wisdom that
tiny being posesses. Unschooling parents are like members of a
couple who are falling in love, they want to know everything about
the other person, want to have adventures and grow together, and
can't imagine living parallel but disconnected lives. I realize
there are challenges, and days when either parent or child is grumpy
or tough to be around, but the basic idea that we're in this life to
learn together and grow together stands over the years.
What do you think?
Thanks! Also, please share any sites or resources you recommend for
newbies. I've read Holt's "Learning all the Time" but am looking
for more info.
- Heather
I just found you a few days ago, and thought I'd introduce myself.
I'm Heather, married SAHM, with 2 children. DS Chase is 3 1/2,
Kylee is 13 mos today. My husband and I decided to homeschool 2
years ago, but are still working on our philosophy and method plan.
I'm interested in unschooling, but don't know if I'll have the
courage to stick with it. Love takes courage and patience and joy
and fortitude. What's the connection? It occured to me that all
parents, especially those who take the time to homeschool love
their children. They want what's best, at least in their own
minds. People who unschool are IN LOVE with their children.
They've never lost the awe a parent has when gazing at a newborn and
marveling at the combination of potential and innate wisdom that
tiny being posesses. Unschooling parents are like members of a
couple who are falling in love, they want to know everything about
the other person, want to have adventures and grow together, and
can't imagine living parallel but disconnected lives. I realize
there are challenges, and days when either parent or child is grumpy
or tough to be around, but the basic idea that we're in this life to
learn together and grow together stands over the years.
What do you think?
Thanks! Also, please share any sites or resources you recommend for
newbies. I've read Holt's "Learning all the Time" but am looking
for more info.
- Heather
Lesa
very interesting perspective... though the thing about *being in love* with
someone is all about you and not the other person.
i have more to say but no time right now to say it... i'll ponder on this
more and get back to it tomorrow
Lesa
http://lifeacademy.homeschooljournal.net
http://the3lboutique.has.it
-------Original Message-------
From: kgmomgo
Date: 08/26/06 15:10:29
To: [email protected]
Subject: [AlwaysLearning] Don't know if I have the courage, but I'm
beginning to think I "get it"
Hi everyone,
I just found you a few days ago, and thought I'd introduce myself.
I'm Heather, married SAHM, with 2 children. DS Chase is 3 1/2,
Kylee is 13 mos today. My husband and I decided to homeschool 2
years ago, but are still working on our philosophy and method plan.
I'm interested in unschooling, but don't know if I'll have the
courage to stick with it. Love takes courage and patience and joy
and fortitude. What's the connection? It occured to me that all
parents, especially those who take the time to homeschool love
their children. They want what's best, at least in their own
minds. People who unschool are IN LOVE with their children.
They've never lost the awe a parent has when gazing at a newborn and
marveling at the combination of potential and innate wisdom that
tiny being posesses. Unschooling parents are like members of a
couple who are falling in love, they want to know everything about
the other person, want to have adventures and grow together, and
can't imagine living parallel but disconnected lives. I realize
there are challenges, and days when either parent or child is grumpy
or tough to be around, but the basic idea that we're in this life to
learn together and grow together stands over the years.
What do you think?
Thanks! Also, please share any sites or resources you recommend for
newbies. I've read Holt's "Learning all the Time" but am looking
for more info.
- Heather
Yahoo! Groups Links
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someone is all about you and not the other person.
i have more to say but no time right now to say it... i'll ponder on this
more and get back to it tomorrow
Lesa
http://lifeacademy.homeschooljournal.net
http://the3lboutique.has.it
-------Original Message-------
From: kgmomgo
Date: 08/26/06 15:10:29
To: [email protected]
Subject: [AlwaysLearning] Don't know if I have the courage, but I'm
beginning to think I "get it"
Hi everyone,
I just found you a few days ago, and thought I'd introduce myself.
I'm Heather, married SAHM, with 2 children. DS Chase is 3 1/2,
Kylee is 13 mos today. My husband and I decided to homeschool 2
years ago, but are still working on our philosophy and method plan.
I'm interested in unschooling, but don't know if I'll have the
courage to stick with it. Love takes courage and patience and joy
and fortitude. What's the connection? It occured to me that all
parents, especially those who take the time to homeschool love
their children. They want what's best, at least in their own
minds. People who unschool are IN LOVE with their children.
They've never lost the awe a parent has when gazing at a newborn and
marveling at the combination of potential and innate wisdom that
tiny being posesses. Unschooling parents are like members of a
couple who are falling in love, they want to know everything about
the other person, want to have adventures and grow together, and
can't imagine living parallel but disconnected lives. I realize
there are challenges, and days when either parent or child is grumpy
or tough to be around, but the basic idea that we're in this life to
learn together and grow together stands over the years.
What do you think?
Thanks! Also, please share any sites or resources you recommend for
newbies. I've read Holt's "Learning all the Time" but am looking
for more info.
- Heather
Yahoo! Groups Links
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Sandra Dodd
-=-please share any sites or resources you recommend for
newbies. I've read Holt's "Learning all the Time" but am looking
for more info.
-=
http://sandradodd.com/help
Links to lots of newbie-helpful stuff.
Sandra
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newbies. I've read Holt's "Learning all the Time" but am looking
for more info.
-=
http://sandradodd.com/help
Links to lots of newbie-helpful stuff.
Sandra
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Sandra Dodd
-=-very interesting perspective... though the thing about *being in
love* with
someone is all about you and not the other person. -=-
I have a collection of things about "being in love" and it shouldn't
apply to one's children. Seriously. <g>
http://biochemicallove.blogspot.com
I don't think loving children is particular to unschoolers, though I
think it's easier to love children who are near and familiar and not
furious with the parents.
Sandra
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love* with
someone is all about you and not the other person. -=-
I have a collection of things about "being in love" and it shouldn't
apply to one's children. Seriously. <g>
http://biochemicallove.blogspot.com
I don't think loving children is particular to unschoolers, though I
think it's easier to love children who are near and familiar and not
furious with the parents.
Sandra
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Gold Standard
>>I don't think loving children is particular to unschoolers, though IAnd to add to this thought, it's easier to love parents who are near and not
>>think it's easier to love children who are near and familiar and not
>>furious with the parents.<<
furious with the children :o)
Jacki
plaidpanties666
--- In [email protected], "kgmomgo" <srs518@...> wrote:
get started. Its scary stepping away from the standard family
paradigm. Its unnerving to Trust when all your background is
screaming "just say NO!" even when you can see the way to "Yes." Its
frustrating to have to rethink and reframe and reexamine all the
time until it starts to feel natural.
Once it does start to feel natural "sticking with" unschooling isn't
like being in love at all. Its like living with someone who is
important to you. Standard parenting expects children to become less
important to parents and vice versa. If you have a 3yr old you've
been getting some of those messages already - messages
about "separation" and all the "personal time" you'll "get back"
once your kid goes to preschool.
From that perspective, spending so much time together seems weird -
like a twenty year love affair. To 'get' unschooling takes an
entirely *different* perspective about people living together as
families. Its a perspective that you only get *after* you've started
unschooling - which is why starting can be sooooo scary.
One of the things I found most helpful when I was just getting into
unschooling was to hear the stories of people with kids just a
little older than mine. It was exciting to read about teens, but
still really abstract b/c I wasn't living with a teen, I was living
with a 3yr old. Hearing the stories of people with 5 yr olds gave me
the "courage" to get over all the "what ifs" and "yes, buts" that
come up in the beginning.
---Meredith
>> I'm interested in unschooling, but don't know if I'll have theI don't know that you need courage to "stick with it" so much as to
> courage to stick with it.
get started. Its scary stepping away from the standard family
paradigm. Its unnerving to Trust when all your background is
screaming "just say NO!" even when you can see the way to "Yes." Its
frustrating to have to rethink and reframe and reexamine all the
time until it starts to feel natural.
Once it does start to feel natural "sticking with" unschooling isn't
like being in love at all. Its like living with someone who is
important to you. Standard parenting expects children to become less
important to parents and vice versa. If you have a 3yr old you've
been getting some of those messages already - messages
about "separation" and all the "personal time" you'll "get back"
once your kid goes to preschool.
From that perspective, spending so much time together seems weird -
like a twenty year love affair. To 'get' unschooling takes an
entirely *different* perspective about people living together as
families. Its a perspective that you only get *after* you've started
unschooling - which is why starting can be sooooo scary.
One of the things I found most helpful when I was just getting into
unschooling was to hear the stories of people with kids just a
little older than mine. It was exciting to read about teens, but
still really abstract b/c I wasn't living with a teen, I was living
with a 3yr old. Hearing the stories of people with 5 yr olds gave me
the "courage" to get over all the "what ifs" and "yes, buts" that
come up in the beginning.
---Meredith