This page was created in 2013 to bring together several ideas involving parental belief about sugar.

This website has for many years had information refuting the idea that sugar is addictive, or that sugar makes kids hyperactive. There are dozens of descriptions of kids choosing other foods over sugar when there's an array and sweets are as readily available as any other food. Links to those are in the column to the right. Below is from a discussion from Radical Unschooling Info about *why* the belief is so prevalent.

"The ideas in my head weren't my own."

Meredith:

What makes so many erroneous beliefs tenacious is "variable reinforcement" - when something correlates only some of the time, people actually believe it harder and longer than if there's a clear relationship every single time. It's the root of superstition, and it's true of any creature with a brain - not just human nature, but animal nature. We're instinctively superstitious ;)

When are kids actively given lots of sweets? At exciting events: parties. So Some of the time, kids+sugar correlates with lots of running around in excitement.

The other key factor is that "everyone knows". A great deal of parenting "wisdom" is made up of things "everyone knows" because everyone repeats them back and forth, over and over. Like "you have to go to school to learn" and "children need rules". Some of the things "everyone knows" are completely wrong, but because "everyone knows" them, it's very, very difficult for people to change their attitudes even in the presence of evidence to the contrary.

It was really shocking for me to discover just how much of what I "knew" was a result of that repetition. I accounted myself an intelligent, thoughtful person, with strong "alternative" viewpoints, but most of what I thought I knew about parenting was based in a kind of cultural conditioning. The ideas in my head weren't my own. That's humbling.


Angela Booth wrote:
I made a real effort to remember that unschooling is natural learning on the part of the learner, and that the experience of his relationship to sugar would just have to belong to him and sugar. Not to me and sugar.

There is a section on "Myths too many parents believe" about sugar, right up at the top.
Sugar as a scary substance, with stories of people whose beliefs changed dramatically.


"Happy, supported, trusted kids don't make the same choices as unhappy, controlled kids."
—Joyce Fetteroll
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Going Against Nature

Sandra Dodd's responses to a mom who wrote:
I try to model healthy eating, and I eat mostly whole foods - fruits, veggies, and grains. But when I offer her a bite of my food, she tells me it's "yucky" and that she wants cookies instead.

(Sandra, plain text:)
Because she's young, the food you're eating probably IS yucky. Not sweet enough.

Anyone who's ever tasted human breast milk, compared to what formula tastes like, will know that it's REALLY sweet. Formula is yucky. Kids have an instinctive desire for sweetness. Adults like all kinds of bitter, sour things, but young children tend not to.

Try not to go against nature, when you're aiming to "be natural."

-=-Do I just "let her" (I hate using that phrase) eat sweets all the time?-=-

You're assuming she will eat sweets all the time if you don't prevent it. There are deep and wide problems with that.

Here are two pages to read, and each has links to others if you're not persuaded to relax before those two are done.

If I let him, he would...
True Tales of Kids Turning Down Sweets What actually happens when children have choices?

True Tales of Kids Turning Down Sweets Monkeyplatters Other prejudices