Family, and Food Fears
When Food Fears can Divide a Family January 2017, Radical Unschooling Info group on facebook, someone wrote:
Spin off question: This came up for me when I read about a woman describing a child that was rejecting his mother’s homemade recipe in favor of a boxed version. What about when a mother is passionate about cooking, agriculture and ancient foods (as I am)? We have a family milk cow, pigs, chickens, gardens, and I deeply love the process of creating foods from scratch (chocolates, natural sodas and ales, bread, etc.). If my children one day decided that they no longer wanted my homemade yogurt, but instead wanted store-bought, it would literally rob me of my passion (and dear pet and animal friend) because we wouldn’t have the money to feed and care for our cow if we also purchased dairy products at the store.
Sandra Dodd:
-=-. If my children one day decided that they no longer wanted my homemade yogurt, but instead wanted store-bought, it would literally rob me of my passion (and dear pet and animal friend)-=-

You've just presented a clear point of choice, in a way.

You can choose your cow, or your children.

Or you can choose unschooling, or continue to limit and control (which will get you the support of thousands of people who don't know you, and probably dozens who do).

Or you can find a way to live that doesn't accuse your children of literally robbing you. Be creative enough to include your cow and your children both, and don't create false dichotomies. :-)

Robbery involves intent. Don't partner with your dear animal friend instead of with your child.
http://sandradodd.com/partners/child

Original poster responded:
"robbery involves intent" I agree with that.

What I am understanding you to say though, is that the greater part of my question, about finding balance, is not possible. I must give up everything that is not in alignment with my children's desires. How does that bring balance into a home, and at what point do the needs and passions of the parents factor in and become worthy of consideration? I'm truly asking because I haven't quite come to a place of understanding and I want to.