Defending your ideas

Someone who is now anonymous wrote in a facebook discussion:

Wow, this forum should be renamed Sandra Knows It All. Sandra, your responses jump to a million assumptions and are totally self-righteous and rude. You're not trying to help anyone, you just want to show how you're above everyone. I'm really disappointed as you're one of the faces of the Unschooling movement and your holier than thou attitude is what most people without knowledge if Unschooling expect. Anyone coming here for infowar support will certainly be repelled by your smug example and run for the hills. How ironic is that.

Sandra:
‎-=-Anyone coming here for infowar support-=-
I'm unfamiliar with "infowar support," but am familiar with unschooling and what hurts and what helps. I'm unwilling to spend my volunteer time "supporting" bad suggestions. I hope you're unwilling to spend yours insulting people.

If you can give better advice than I'm giving, please just do it. Here's a forum for it.


The other person responded a bit later:
Sandra, that was meant to be "info or support" but auto-correct changed it. I was very excited when I learned about your group here because we are Unschooling our children (as a complete mindset of life from birth) in an area with no resources. I've been following the threads because people are asking questions that I also need answers to and I was hopeful for your responses of wisdom, as you are one of the "faces" of Unschooling. And by that term I certainly mean no disrespect - Just the opposite, I feel like your answers should be respected. But the responses I've seen have seemed very contrary and hostile and led to people having to defend and explain their positions. And there doesn't seem to be encouragement or room for mistakes.

I understand you must be a very busy woman and as you said, this is "volunteer" work for you and you don't have time to mince words, but it seems to be opposite of the free learning environment that unschooling is supposed to value. It may come easy to you after many years, but in our society Unschooling is a huge leap of faith and I would be sad to see people who are investigating look into your page, as the writer of one of the most prominent books on the subject, and be shot down because they aren't practiced or fully on board yet.

I don't know what protocol is, but I wrote the previous post quickly and I apologize that it was rude. I would like to remove it as it was not in the spirit of how I speak or the environment I am hoping to create for my family and in all communications in my life.


Quotes are the other person, indents are my responses. Then soon after, the whole thread was deleted by someone who was neither of us. :-) So it goes.
-=- But the responses I've seen have seemed very contrary and hostile and led to people having to defend and explain their positions. And there doesn't seem to be encouragement or room for mistakes. -=-
Anyone who cannot defend or explain a position shouldn't post.
If someone can't defend a position to other unschoolers, how will they do with the relatives or the social workers?

I'm not hostile. I will defend the integrity of the discussion, though. If people give advice that isn't logical or useful to unschoolers, I'll probably mention that if someone else hasn't already done so.

No one should depend on this group nor on ANY one resource for all their input. I write every day. This is encouragment, and it's free:
http://justaddlightandstir.blogspot.com/
So is this:
http://sandradodd.com/unschooling
and Joyce's site:
http://joyfullyrejoycing.com/

-= but in our society Unschooling is a huge leap of faith and I would be sad to see people who are investigating look into your page, as the writer of one of the most prominent books on the subject, and be shot down because they aren't practiced or fully on board yet. -=-
Do you think I didn't grow up "in our society" though? And continue to live in "our society"? People can look into this page without "being shot down." No one has to post anything at all, Those who do post, though, are inviting discussion of the ideas they post.
-=I don't know what protocol is, but I wrote the previous post quickly and I apologize that it was rude. I would like to remove it as it was not in the spirit of how I speak or the environment I am hoping to create for my family and in all communications in my life.-=-
You have the ability to delete your own posts if you want to. There should be a little X up to the right. I could have deleted it myself when it first came up (because administrators have that ability), but I am willing to defend and explain my position, even though you were contrary and hostile. :-)

I think when people want support and encouragement, they are wanting this kind of message. http://sandradodd.com/support.html
I did make up the tea party quotes, but the others are real statements made by real people which don't help them or anyone else.

Just Add Light and Stir
justaddlightandstir.blogspot.com


Confidence or Arrogance? Feedback Negative opinions changed to positive Unschooling: Getting It