Questions about doctors
Deborah Lewis
A friend recently took her son to a doctor for a itchy red rash and sinus
thing. She homeschools, and when she went to the rest room, while the
doctor had her son alone he asked several questions. = have you ever
thought you'd like to go to school like other kids = do you have
brothers and sisters at home or is it just you and your mom = are you
alone with your mom all day =. She didn't know about it until after,
when in the course of conversation her son mentioned these questions and
wondered why the doctor would be writing something down...
It made me mad, and I saw conspiracy everywhere, but she seemed cool
about it at first. Now she's wondering though, if this thing gets asked
of all homeschooler or was it just her,or what?
Anyone ever hear of this? Have I been watching too many movies?
Deb L
thing. She homeschools, and when she went to the rest room, while the
doctor had her son alone he asked several questions. = have you ever
thought you'd like to go to school like other kids = do you have
brothers and sisters at home or is it just you and your mom = are you
alone with your mom all day =. She didn't know about it until after,
when in the course of conversation her son mentioned these questions and
wondered why the doctor would be writing something down...
It made me mad, and I saw conspiracy everywhere, but she seemed cool
about it at first. Now she's wondering though, if this thing gets asked
of all homeschooler or was it just her,or what?
Anyone ever hear of this? Have I been watching too many movies?
Deb L
Joylyn
what were the child's answers?
yes, i would be concerned about a doctor who asked questions like this
without my knowledge and i would call the doctor and ask them about
those questions. then i would find a different one.
joylyn
Deborah Lewis wrote:
yes, i would be concerned about a doctor who asked questions like this
without my knowledge and i would call the doctor and ask them about
those questions. then i would find a different one.
joylyn
Deborah Lewis wrote:
> A friend recently took her son to a doctor for a itchy red rash and sinus[Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
> thing. She homeschools, and when she went to the rest room, while the
> doctor had her son alone he asked several questions. = have you ever
> thought you'd like to go to school like other kids = do you have
> brothers and sisters at home or is it just you and your mom = are you
> alone with your mom all day =. She didn't know about it until after,
> when in the course of conversation her son mentioned these questions and
> wondered why the doctor would be writing something down...
>
> It made me mad, and I saw conspiracy everywhere, but she seemed cool
> about it at first. Now she's wondering though, if this thing gets asked
> of all homeschooler or was it just her,or what?
> Anyone ever hear of this? Have I been watching too many movies?
>
> Deb L
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Deborah Lewis
> what were the child's answers?He answered normally, there's no major weirdness in their family...<g>
...no not interested in school... I have a baby sister... no, we go out
and do stuff...
She has found a different doctor but I don't know that she'd ever
questions this one as to why he asked such questions.
I am really wondering now if this happens a lot to homeschoolers. To
every kid the doctor gets alone? Public school kids too? Or just
homeschoolers because they're "isolationists" or some other unpleasant
thing?
I still think it's creepy.
Deb L
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In a message dated 9/29/02 5:36:05 PM, ddzimlew@... writes:
<< It made me mad, and I saw conspiracy everywhere, but she seemed cool
about it at first. Now she's wondering though, if this thing gets asked
of all homeschooler or was it just her,or what?
Anyone ever hear of this? >>
It's common for family physicians to ask personal questions about family
relations and personal happiness. It can affect health.
When kids are in school they ask the kids if they're liking school and
whether they get along with the other kids okay. It's part of a profile they
want to have to understand people's attitudes and "posture" (not physical,
but facial, and responses).
I don't know if specialists would ask unless it was something they thought
could be stress related.
Sandra
<< It made me mad, and I saw conspiracy everywhere, but she seemed cool
about it at first. Now she's wondering though, if this thing gets asked
of all homeschooler or was it just her,or what?
Anyone ever hear of this? >>
It's common for family physicians to ask personal questions about family
relations and personal happiness. It can affect health.
When kids are in school they ask the kids if they're liking school and
whether they get along with the other kids okay. It's part of a profile they
want to have to understand people's attitudes and "posture" (not physical,
but facial, and responses).
I don't know if specialists would ask unless it was something they thought
could be stress related.
Sandra
Joylyn
i think it's creepy too. we have the same ped nurse pract that we've
had since lexie was a few months old. i saw her lead doc and hated him.
he did not trust that i knew that there was something wrong with
lexie's eyes when there was, and i should have been more assertive. but
anyway, the kids nurse pract is great. she does do developmental stuff,
but she sort of chuckles when she does them with my girls. like at
janene's 2 year appt she had her draw a line and a circle and a few
other things. i think it's good she's keeping an eye on the
developmental stuff. but it's very casual how she does it. she also
has asked lexie if she likes homeschooling, and what types of things
she's working on but again, very casual and it's more because she's
interested and enjoys talking with lexie.
we did have one doc who we saw twice in the same day when janene cut her
finger badly and the original glueing didn't stick. the doc just
couldn't figure homeschoolingout. lexie was trying to help. he was
thinking that the kids are never around other kids. lexie finally said
something like... 'don't you get it, we are never at home, my dad drives
us everywhere, we go have a good time with lots of other kids goign to
museums and the zoo and the park and we learn things in the world as
they should be learned, not in some closed up classroom!' i was
confused because how could he have a conversation with these two girls
and not know that they are well socialized.
but anyway, i do think the doc's questions were creepy and i'm glad your
friend found another doc.
joylyn
Deborah Lewis wrote:
had since lexie was a few months old. i saw her lead doc and hated him.
he did not trust that i knew that there was something wrong with
lexie's eyes when there was, and i should have been more assertive. but
anyway, the kids nurse pract is great. she does do developmental stuff,
but she sort of chuckles when she does them with my girls. like at
janene's 2 year appt she had her draw a line and a circle and a few
other things. i think it's good she's keeping an eye on the
developmental stuff. but it's very casual how she does it. she also
has asked lexie if she likes homeschooling, and what types of things
she's working on but again, very casual and it's more because she's
interested and enjoys talking with lexie.
we did have one doc who we saw twice in the same day when janene cut her
finger badly and the original glueing didn't stick. the doc just
couldn't figure homeschoolingout. lexie was trying to help. he was
thinking that the kids are never around other kids. lexie finally said
something like... 'don't you get it, we are never at home, my dad drives
us everywhere, we go have a good time with lots of other kids goign to
museums and the zoo and the park and we learn things in the world as
they should be learned, not in some closed up classroom!' i was
confused because how could he have a conversation with these two girls
and not know that they are well socialized.
but anyway, i do think the doc's questions were creepy and i'm glad your
friend found another doc.
joylyn
Deborah Lewis wrote:
>
> > what were the child's answers?
>
> He answered normally, there's no major weirdness in their family...<g>
> ...no not interested in school... I have a baby sister... no, we go out
> and do stuff...
>
> She has found a different doctor but I don't know that she'd ever
> questions this one as to why he asked such questions.
>
> I am really wondering now if this happens a lot to homeschoolers. To
> every kid the doctor gets alone? Public school kids too? Or just
> homeschoolers because they're "isolationists" or some other unpleasant
> thing?
> I still think it's creepy.
>
> Deb L
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Joylyn
yes, but those questions could have been asked in front of mom. it
concerns me that they were not asked when a parent was present. but
then i would never leave my child alone with a doctor i didn't know well.
joylyn
SandraDodd@... wrote:
concerns me that they were not asked when a parent was present. but
then i would never leave my child alone with a doctor i didn't know well.
joylyn
SandraDodd@... wrote:
>[Non-text portions of this message have been removed]
> In a message dated 9/29/02 5:36:05 PM, ddzimlew@... writes:
>
> << It made me mad, and I saw conspiracy everywhere, but she seemed cool
> about it at first. Now she's wondering though, if this thing gets asked
> of all homeschooler or was it just her,or what?
> Anyone ever hear of this? >>
>
> It's common for family physicians to ask personal questions about family
> relations and personal happiness. It can affect health.
>
> When kids are in school they ask the kids if they're liking school and
> whether they get along with the other kids okay. It's part of a
> profile they
> want to have to understand people's attitudes and "posture" (not
> physical,
> but facial, and responses).
>
> I don't know if specialists would ask unless it was something they
> thought
> could be stress related.
>
>
>
> Sandra
>
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Deborah Lewis
> yes, but those questions could have been asked in front of mom. itThis is true, she didn't know the doctor well. She said she'd gone to
> concerns me that they were not asked when a parent was present. but
>
> then i would never leave my child alone with a doctor i didn't know
> well.
the restroom, just across the hall, when the doctor was out of the exam
room but he came back before she did. I wouldn't have left the room
either, but there it is.
Deb L
Nancy Wooton
on 9/29/02 5:18 PM, Deborah Lewis at ddzimlew@... wrote:
because of the notorious cases like the woman in Texas who drowned all her
kids? My ped. always asked about the Socialization, after saying he thought
homeschooling was the very best for academics. (we didn't mention
unschooling then <g>) I'd assure him we got out of the house often enough
;-)
Nancy
> I am really wondering now if this happens a lot to homeschoolers. ToDoctors and nurses are mandatory reporters; maybe they are concerned now
> every kid the doctor gets alone? Public school kids too? Or just
> homeschoolers because they're "isolationists" or some other unpleasant
> thing?
> I still think it's creepy.
because of the notorious cases like the woman in Texas who drowned all her
kids? My ped. always asked about the Socialization, after saying he thought
homeschooling was the very best for academics. (we didn't mention
unschooling then <g>) I'd assure him we got out of the house often enough
;-)
Nancy
Betsy
**
I am really wondering now if this happens a lot to homeschoolers. To
every kid the doctor gets alone? Public school kids too? Or just
homeschoolers because they're "isolationists" or some other unpleasant
thing? **
It seems that doctors have been more pro-active in the last several
years trying to find out if women are being abused by their partners.
There are likely to be similar efforts made to sniff out various forms
of child abuse and neglect. I kind of have the impression that the
American Pediatrics Association, or some similar group, sent out a memo
(or whatever it would be) suggesting that doctors check that
homeschooled kids aren't being locked in closets and raised by wolves.
(But I'm really guessing.)
Betsy
I am really wondering now if this happens a lot to homeschoolers. To
every kid the doctor gets alone? Public school kids too? Or just
homeschoolers because they're "isolationists" or some other unpleasant
thing? **
It seems that doctors have been more pro-active in the last several
years trying to find out if women are being abused by their partners.
There are likely to be similar efforts made to sniff out various forms
of child abuse and neglect. I kind of have the impression that the
American Pediatrics Association, or some similar group, sent out a memo
(or whatever it would be) suggesting that doctors check that
homeschooled kids aren't being locked in closets and raised by wolves.
(But I'm really guessing.)
Betsy
Janet Hamlin
My dd got asked some questions, but in a way any schooled child might as
well, and I was present.
My son goes to a specialist weekly (he's 4). The doctors haven't
questioned, but the child-life specialist has, but mostly from a curiosity
point of view, not threatening. The meds my son is taking *may* cause some
learning disabilities, though from what I gather those are mostly
school-related problems, not learning from life problems (and ds hasn't
shown any signs of this).
Janet, Mom to Caroline, 8, and Thomas, 4
well, and I was present.
My son goes to a specialist weekly (he's 4). The doctors haven't
questioned, but the child-life specialist has, but mostly from a curiosity
point of view, not threatening. The meds my son is taking *may* cause some
learning disabilities, though from what I gather those are mostly
school-related problems, not learning from life problems (and ds hasn't
shown any signs of this).
Janet, Mom to Caroline, 8, and Thomas, 4