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Hello,
These ideas of bedtime, control, and the young woman are very interesting.
Surrendering and trusting the young people we get to see grow up is so
difficult. First, the safety of life, the hold my hand, slow down when you
eat, small pieces please, watch the street then cross, two hands on the
scooter. At some point along the way, these little people really do know how
to be responsible. I see it with Tessa, almost 3 on some things, alot with
Riley, 5.5, and Ashley at almost 8 seems to know how to be in the world.
Right now I was controlling Tessa. She is playing with homemade playdough we
cooked up about 45 minutes ago. She wants to mix in more flour. I told her she
had enough. Why? Two reasons, I see a potential mess I get to clean up and she
will make the playdough too dry. My deal. I gave her more flour and told her
sorry for not listening right away.
Controlling the kids seems to creep into our lives so easily. I hear parents
all the time telling kids not to do this or that at the playground. Throwing
sand yes, but climbing up the slide when no one else is playing on it does not
seem reasonable.
I like this discussion,
Mary H. (who married an introvert and is still learning to respect his out
side of the group needs). Makes it difficult sometimes to do exciting crowd
activities, like fairs and festivals, yet boy do we have fun on our own in the
woods and beaches. I also have learned to ts=ake the kids to group things with
another family and ask Tim if he wants to join us. No expectations.
These ideas of bedtime, control, and the young woman are very interesting.
Surrendering and trusting the young people we get to see grow up is so
difficult. First, the safety of life, the hold my hand, slow down when you
eat, small pieces please, watch the street then cross, two hands on the
scooter. At some point along the way, these little people really do know how
to be responsible. I see it with Tessa, almost 3 on some things, alot with
Riley, 5.5, and Ashley at almost 8 seems to know how to be in the world.
Right now I was controlling Tessa. She is playing with homemade playdough we
cooked up about 45 minutes ago. She wants to mix in more flour. I told her she
had enough. Why? Two reasons, I see a potential mess I get to clean up and she
will make the playdough too dry. My deal. I gave her more flour and told her
sorry for not listening right away.
Controlling the kids seems to creep into our lives so easily. I hear parents
all the time telling kids not to do this or that at the playground. Throwing
sand yes, but climbing up the slide when no one else is playing on it does not
seem reasonable.
I like this discussion,
Mary H. (who married an introvert and is still learning to respect his out
side of the group needs). Makes it difficult sometimes to do exciting crowd
activities, like fairs and festivals, yet boy do we have fun on our own in the
woods and beaches. I also have learned to ts=ake the kids to group things with
another family and ask Tim if he wants to join us. No expectations.