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I have a friend who homeschools her children. She's not an unschooler
but she did let her daughter play and have fun until a few years ago when
they decided to get a little more serious about "school" work.
Her daughter is now in her junior year and having a panic attack. She's
shy, and blaming her parents for her awkwardness in social situations.
She does play sports, but doesn't otherwise socialize with other kids.
Her parents seem to be panic stricken too, feeling like they ruined her
life and are now thinking of putting their other kids in school.

I would appreciate any thoughts on alternative choices for this girl
who's feeling like life is over if she can't go to college.

Thanks.

Deb L

Heidi Wordhouse-Dykema

Maybe someone else here has the patience and fortitude to explain that one
person cannot make another person gregarious, extroverted or a rocket
scientist unless the other person actively pursues being such
themselves... Ahem. If the teen wants to work on being more extroverted,
she can get her butt out in the community and help build a Humanity house
or work at a food bank. It's super easy to meet people that way and the
whining will end because she'll be too tired or busy. (sorry, attitude
slipped there...)

On the college question, the short answer would be to have your friend
either issue a diploma to the daughter and start applying to 4 year
colleges (transcripts are easy to type up), or have her concurrently enroll
in a junior college (2 year college) to get the grunt courses out of the
way then transfer into a 4 year of her choice - or if they want some
hand-holding, call Wes Beach who's helped lots of homeschool kids get into
college (at least the ones who are enrolled in his private home school and
maybe even others.) Wes can be reached at: beachhi@...

Lots and lots of colleges love homeschooled kids, from Reed to Harvard to
Podunk U. so I would really suggest you get your friend a good
Scholarship-finding book and maybe some Valium because they're going to
need it when they see what tuitions are.
Heidi


>Her daughter is now in her junior year and having a panic attack. She's
>shy, and blaming her parents for her awkwardness in social situations.
>She does play sports, but doesn't otherwise socialize with other kids.
>Her parents seem to be panic stricken too, feeling like they ruined her
>life and are now thinking of putting their other kids in school.
>
>I would appreciate any thoughts on alternative choices for this girl
>who's feeling like life is over if she can't go to college.

[email protected]

In a message dated 9/9/2002 6:58:29 PM Eastern Daylight Time,
heidi@... writes:
> I would appreciate any thoughts on alternative choices for this girl
> >who's feeling like life is over if she can't go to college.
>

I have a small (600 students) college located in Laurinburg, NC that has
actually bought booth space at the conference in October. (I haven't yet
found out how they heard of us!) They are VERY interested in homeschoolers
and UNschoolers, in particular. They offer majors in Therapeutic Riding as
well as one in Equine Studies for all the horsey types out there. St Andrews
Presbyterian College. <A HREF="http://www.sapc.edu/main.html">Click here: Welcome to St. Andrews Presbyterian
College</A>

It's not the only school targeting unschoolers, for sure---but they're
actively pursuing them in October in SC! <g>

Kelly


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Nancy Wooton

on 9/9/02 4:17 PM, kbcdlovejo@... at kbcdlovejo@... wrote:

> In a message dated 9/9/2002 6:58:29 PM Eastern Daylight Time,
> heidi@... writes:
>> I would appreciate any thoughts on alternative choices for this girl
>>> who's feeling like life is over if she can't go to college.
>>
>
> I have a small (600 students) college located in Laurinburg, NC that has
> actually bought booth space at the conference in October. (I haven't yet
> found out how they heard of us!) They are VERY interested in homeschoolers
> and UNschoolers, in particular. They offer majors in Therapeutic Riding as
> well as one in Equine Studies for all the horsey types out there. St Andrews
> Presbyterian College. <A HREF="http://www.sapc.edu/main.html">Click here:
> Welcome to St. Andrews Presbyterian
> College</A>
>
> It's not the only school targeting unschoolers, for sure---but they're
> actively pursuing them in October in SC! <g>
>
> Kelly
>

Oh WOW! thank you for that link!!! I've been working at a therapeutic
riding program since December; now I want to go to college (again)!! I had
no idea there was any school offering such a degree.

I guess I have to finish hsing my kids before I go, huh? <g>

Nancy

Betsy

** Oh WOW! thank you for that link!!! I've been working at a therapeutic
riding program since December; now I want to go to college (again)!! I had
no idea there was any school offering such a degree.

I guess I have to finish hsing my kids before I go, huh? <g>**


Well, I've gotta figure that this is one of those programs where
distance learning over the internet wouldn't be quite the same as the
real thing.

Betsy

Janet Hamlin

Speaking as an introvert, you can't make us extroverts! I have just been
reading some diaries I wrote when I was 18 and living in Peru as an exchange
student. The recurring theme was: Why can't people accept me like I am? I
should be more outgoing, friendly, yada yada yada. No one had told me it
was OK to just be myself and that being an introvert was OK!! I enjoy being
with people and having fun, but I reach my limit after a few hours and need
to be alone. In fact, I wrote, "I really just like to be by myself to read
and think my own thoughts."

It was interesting to read that while my basic personality traits are still
the same, I accept myself for who I am and I am not afraid or ashamed of
needing my quiet times to recharge.

Janet, off on a tangent......

Sharon Rudd

Does Wes Breach, and/or his school have a web page?

Sharon of the Swamp


call Wes Beach who's helped lots of
> homeschool kids get into
> college (at least the ones who are enrolled in his
> private home school and
> maybe even others.) Wes can be reached at:
> beachhi@...
>

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Yep.
http://members.cruzio.com/~beachhi/home.html
Heidi

At 06:36 AM 9/10/2002 -0700, you wrote:
>Does Wes Breach, and/or his school have a web page?
>
>Sharon of the Swamp
>
>
> call Wes Beach who's helped lots of
> > homeschool kids get into
> > college (at least the ones who are enrolled in his
> > private home school and
> > maybe even others.) Wes can be reached at:
> > beachhi@...
> >
>
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Thank you Kelly for the St Andrews Presbyterian College information, and
thank you Heidi for the Wes Beach contact info and web address, (and the
other thoughts!<g>)
I appreciate having something useful to share with her.
You two are all right. <g>

Deb L

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In a message dated 9/10/02 11:40:04 PM Central Daylight Time,
[email protected] writes:

<< No one had told me it
was OK to just be myself and that being an introvert was OK!! I enjoy being
with people and having fun, but I reach my limit after a few hours and need
to be alone. In fact, I wrote, "I really just like to be by myself to read
and think my own thoughts."
>>

This is exactly why unschooling is so great! Honoring the individual for
themselves, exactly who they are and what they need today.
That's why I didn't care for the previous reply about what this teen should
do.
Good to hear from an introvert on this topic.

Ren