GOALS
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In a message dated 8/25/02 11:31:13 AM Central Daylight Time,
[email protected] writes:
<< << In an unschooling household, there's no difference between this kind of
reminder and the reminder of fiddle practice or finishing Kathryn's book. ;)
goals. Some of my goals include some not very comfortable momenst and I tend
to avoid the discomfort (training for a triathlon). I want dh to bug me and I
want him to be there working out with me too.....sometimes maybe that's what
our kids need, a friendly partner.
I hated practicing piano as a kid. I think I would have just sat and messed
with it more had my Mom been willing to sit with me....I really just didn't
like doing it alone.
I know a LOT of people that will work out with a partner but just can't seem
to self motivate, and yet being in shape is something they really want.
I would not have rolled my sorry A** out of bed at 6:30 this morning to go
swim in the gulf and then bike 18 miles. But when dh woke me up and said "are
you coming?" it was suddenly doable.
I think kids are no different. They have things they want that are difficult
to achieve. They may ask for a nudge, or they may just want a partner in the
venture. I think being an aware parent helps us know the signals they are
sending and gives us a chance to dialogue with them to help understand what
our role is in helping them achieve that goal.
Ren
[email protected] writes:
<< << In an unschooling household, there's no difference between this kind of
reminder and the reminder of fiddle practice or finishing Kathryn's book. ;)
>>I totally agree about the nudging. I need some big nudges to achieve certain
goals. Some of my goals include some not very comfortable momenst and I tend
to avoid the discomfort (training for a triathlon). I want dh to bug me and I
want him to be there working out with me too.....sometimes maybe that's what
our kids need, a friendly partner.
I hated practicing piano as a kid. I think I would have just sat and messed
with it more had my Mom been willing to sit with me....I really just didn't
like doing it alone.
I know a LOT of people that will work out with a partner but just can't seem
to self motivate, and yet being in shape is something they really want.
I would not have rolled my sorry A** out of bed at 6:30 this morning to go
swim in the gulf and then bike 18 miles. But when dh woke me up and said "are
you coming?" it was suddenly doable.
I think kids are no different. They have things they want that are difficult
to achieve. They may ask for a nudge, or they may just want a partner in the
venture. I think being an aware parent helps us know the signals they are
sending and gives us a chance to dialogue with them to help understand what
our role is in helping them achieve that goal.
Ren