More than one child, balancing
Sandra Dodd
Niki Rose wrote elsehwere:
"It's not always easy balancing the needs of more than a couple of kids (& i think this could be a topic itself) but the upside of all your effort (aside from creating peace) is when you see something like a child singing for the baby, or your older child steps in with a fun toy when your 3 year old is throwing a tantrum. Little things like that help you to see the life learning that happens every day from a family of all ages being together.”
It’s not easy. it’s unlikely that everyone will be equally happy in any one moment, but with practice the parents get better at peace-keeping, and can get better at remembering that moments pass, and moods change, and that things that make things better are… better things. :-)
Choices that improve the general environment can become more habitual. There will be frustrations in parents and children, but it’s how we see those, and characterize/name them, and respond, that will help us provide soft landings.
http://sandradodd.com/nest
If others want to contribute ideas and stories, please do—unschooling-experiences only though, please! There are some new people here, and some new to unschooling, so if your best ideas are mainstream, just read.
Sandra
"It's not always easy balancing the needs of more than a couple of kids (& i think this could be a topic itself) but the upside of all your effort (aside from creating peace) is when you see something like a child singing for the baby, or your older child steps in with a fun toy when your 3 year old is throwing a tantrum. Little things like that help you to see the life learning that happens every day from a family of all ages being together.”
It’s not easy. it’s unlikely that everyone will be equally happy in any one moment, but with practice the parents get better at peace-keeping, and can get better at remembering that moments pass, and moods change, and that things that make things better are… better things. :-)
Choices that improve the general environment can become more habitual. There will be frustrations in parents and children, but it’s how we see those, and characterize/name them, and respond, that will help us provide soft landings.
http://sandradodd.com/nest
If others want to contribute ideas and stories, please do—unschooling-experiences only though, please! There are some new people here, and some new to unschooling, so if your best ideas are mainstream, just read.
Sandra