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I had put in a mesage about this "arranged marriage/courtship" issue but
can't seem to find it....forgive me if I'm being repetative but....
The "I kissed Dating goodbye" is by Josh Harris. I lived right up the road
from his family, attended workshops by his Dad and am well aware of what the
"courtship" ritual is all about.
It is like an arranged marriage in my view. But most of the parents promoting
this will not agree with my view. The family I knew very well that did this,
had a dd at the age of 16 that expressed an interest in a young man (also 16)
that she'd known her entire life. Suddenly he seemed very attractive to
her...at this point the parents make sure it is understood that if you will
be spending time with this person you'd best know that they will be a
lifelong mate. Of course they go to the same church....
When both kids agree that this person is someone they'd consider entering
into a "courtship" with, they then spend time together under the watchful
eyes of the parents. Both parents enter into an agreement with the kids to
help keep them "pure".
I saw this method become VERY invasive as factions on both sides of this
arrangement made sure these kids were never, ever alone together.
Apparently humans have zero self control when with the opposite sex.
They just got married in August after four years of courtship. Personally, I
thought that the length of engagement and the parental control were
ridiculous.
Was this an arranged marriage?
Everyone involved will say no.
I say yes.
Ren