[email protected]

In a message dated 4/30/2002 11:08:12 AM Pacific Daylight Time,
[email protected] writes:


> I'm assuming that since Dan is making sure he's with
> his son whenever his son talks to this guy, that Dan also thinks that the
> guy might bring up these beliefs.

I think it might be that he is aware that people with beliefs like that could
just toss them out, lightly, in the middle of other conversation. The man
could be talking about the inventor of some robot component and say, "Pretty
smart idea for a black guy." Dan would want to hear what gets said so that at
THAT point he would definitely talk to Matthew about it.

We know someone who makes negative comments about boys and men. Just sort of
general negative little side comments. We've ignored it for years, but
somehow it seems worse and I've started to talk to my daughters about what
they're hearing from her. I wasn't ever sure whether to talk to them about it
or not - it is mild stuff, something like, "Well, what do you expect from
him, he's a 'boy' after all" - but one day we were all together and she said
something directly TO my daughter - something derogatory about boys - and it
was really just too much to ignore. So I have felt forced to point it out to
my girls and now they're aware of it, too.

--pamS


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Dan Vilter

on 5/1/02 10:25 AM, PSoroosh@... at PSoroosh@... wrote:

>> I'm assuming that since Dan is making sure he's with
>> his son whenever his son talks to this guy, that Dan also thinks that the
>> guy might bring up these beliefs.
>
> I think it might be that he is aware that people with beliefs like that could
> just toss them out, lightly, in the middle of other conversation. The man
> could be talking about the inventor of some robot component and say, "Pretty
> smart idea for a black guy." Dan would want to hear what gets said so that at
> THAT point he would definitely talk to Matthew about it.

This is exactly right.
-Dan Vilter