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In a message dated 4/10/02 8:18:56 AM Central Daylight Time,
[email protected] writes:

<< I agree. But if I did find out "unsavory" things about people my
children were associating with, taking lessons from...I would put my
guard up. I guess that's what I'm doing now. >>


But over one conversation? It sounds like you were fine with everything until
one person told you some ratty gossip (no pun intended) and then suddenly you
weren't so sure about it.
If someone warned me that a person in charge of an activity we were involved
with was a pedophile, or abusive in some way, that might put my guard up.
But affairs happen every day (no, I'm not excusing the rotten behavior, just
being realistic) and you don't even know about it usually. If you were
unaware of any "unsavory" behavior before, why let what one person tells you
stop your enjoyment of the group?
Of course, if there are other issues like the taking control from the
children, that is understandable.
I think most of the people you meet and deal with in life have some
"unsavory" things that you might be surprised about. This doesn't mean
unsafe, or not a worthy person to learn from.
If you didn't notice that there was some affair going on, chances are your
kids didn't.
In this case I would say it should be totally up to them whether to leave or
not.
If it were a safety issue I would feel differently, but it's not about safety.
You don't know yet whether the adults being in acting parts is something
negative or positive, so let your kids decide at what level they will or
won't participate.....you can always re-evaluate at a future date.
I bet someone could tell you gossip about practically any group that might
make you feel differently about them....that doesn't mean you have to drop
all activities with them.
Ren