Thank you Tirra
gertrude lee
Really thank you so much for your inclination to help other unschoolers, i am new but i know that unschooling is the only way to go for my children and i . my son will be 4 and my daughter is only 1 1/2 but i have gotten either negative feed back on "home schooling" ( i have not had the guts to tell any one that is unsupportive about unschooling) or people just sort of act like it will be somthing i try but wont follow through with, thankfully i do know a handfull of people in my community that unschool and i am going to be turning to them alot in the near future now that i am expected to put my son in pre-school next year. I posted here just once so far i think to introduce myself, but i plan on coming back here as often as possible now that i have my new computer. My decision to unschool and just have my children home gets to be a very emotional decision for me because as a 2nd grader in public school i was sexually and actually pretty
violently assaulted by a 4th grader, I must have been in complete shock and hard to handle in the classroom because my teacher took to physically abusing me ( picking me up off the floor by the shoulders and shaking me violently on a daily basis ) I feel that is unfortunate that i have to simultaniously heal from that negative experience while trying to be a mother to my two beautifull children, i get caught up in some depression sometimes. But i know that brighter days are ahead, especially because i am choosing to unschool. I am so thank full to unschooling support groups and i gravitated to this one in particular and have quotes printed out all over my house from Allways learning.
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violently assaulted by a 4th grader, I must have been in complete shock and hard to handle in the classroom because my teacher took to physically abusing me ( picking me up off the floor by the shoulders and shaking me violently on a daily basis ) I feel that is unfortunate that i have to simultaniously heal from that negative experience while trying to be a mother to my two beautifull children, i get caught up in some depression sometimes. But i know that brighter days are ahead, especially because i am choosing to unschool. I am so thank full to unschooling support groups and i gravitated to this one in particular and have quotes printed out all over my house from Allways learning.
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Sandra Dodd
-=-or people just sort of act like it will be somthing i try but wont
follow through with-=-
That's a good place to be, though, because there's less friction.
People used to say "Are you still homeschooling Kirby?" (my oldest,
when he was six, and seven, and eight) and I would say "It's still
working out!" Or if the question was "How long are you going to
homeschool Kirby?" I'd say as long as it was working out as well as it
was. Or if they were just plainly hoping I'd put him in school, I'd
say "If this stops working, the school is right there."
It made the other people feel good.
It also gave me an out--not that I felt that I needed one, but I've
seen a dozen families over the years in which the mom made way more
than her share of noise about how her kids would NEVER go to school,
they would ALWAYS be home, and one way or another the kids ended up in
school. So add embarrassment and frustration to their equation, and
the awareness of other families where the mom was making less noise
and doing more cool stuff with the kids.
-=-I feel that is unfortunate that i have to simultaniously heal from
that negative experience while trying to be a mother to my two
beautifull children, i get caught up in some depression sometimes. -=-
There are self-help groups that won't cost money, or you should go to
a counsellor if the depression isn't manageable. As it affects the
children, don't put off getting help. You don't want your school to
mess up their lives too.
One way to heal is to imagine your childhood life if you had had
choices (and then give your kids choices) and more attention (and then
give them attention) and if people had cared more and listened. Each
time you're attentive and compassionate, imagine how it would have
felt to your own childhood self if people had done those tiny, sweet
things for you. And don't wallow in it or get angry about it. Use it
as a healing balm for your soul.
http://sandradodd.com/issues/
http://sandradodd.com/rentalk
http://sandradodd.com/breathing
Those all have links to other probably-useful things about self-
healing and being the parent you would have liked to have had, and
being the parent your children need you to be.
Sandra
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follow through with-=-
That's a good place to be, though, because there's less friction.
People used to say "Are you still homeschooling Kirby?" (my oldest,
when he was six, and seven, and eight) and I would say "It's still
working out!" Or if the question was "How long are you going to
homeschool Kirby?" I'd say as long as it was working out as well as it
was. Or if they were just plainly hoping I'd put him in school, I'd
say "If this stops working, the school is right there."
It made the other people feel good.
It also gave me an out--not that I felt that I needed one, but I've
seen a dozen families over the years in which the mom made way more
than her share of noise about how her kids would NEVER go to school,
they would ALWAYS be home, and one way or another the kids ended up in
school. So add embarrassment and frustration to their equation, and
the awareness of other families where the mom was making less noise
and doing more cool stuff with the kids.
-=-I feel that is unfortunate that i have to simultaniously heal from
that negative experience while trying to be a mother to my two
beautifull children, i get caught up in some depression sometimes. -=-
There are self-help groups that won't cost money, or you should go to
a counsellor if the depression isn't manageable. As it affects the
children, don't put off getting help. You don't want your school to
mess up their lives too.
One way to heal is to imagine your childhood life if you had had
choices (and then give your kids choices) and more attention (and then
give them attention) and if people had cared more and listened. Each
time you're attentive and compassionate, imagine how it would have
felt to your own childhood self if people had done those tiny, sweet
things for you. And don't wallow in it or get angry about it. Use it
as a healing balm for your soul.
http://sandradodd.com/issues/
http://sandradodd.com/rentalk
http://sandradodd.com/breathing
Those all have links to other probably-useful things about self-
healing and being the parent you would have liked to have had, and
being the parent your children need you to be.
Sandra
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