"Homeschooling is about Parenting, too!"
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This was posted on another list. Sorry for those of you who might get it
twice. I looked for the original, but I'm guessing it was on a news service
and not out on the net yet, but I did find little bits about the authors and
other research they've done.
I'm sorry for the formatting, too, but I think it's VERY worth reading, and
ties in to some of our discussions a week or so ago:
fears and tears among adults, according to two Harvard Medical School
researchers.
babies close, console them when they cry, and bring them to bed with
them,
where they'll feel safe, according to Michael L. Commons and Patrice M.
Miller, researchers at the Medical School's Department of Psychiatry.
and say the widespread American practice of putting babies in separate
beds -- even separate rooms -- and not responding quickly to their cries
may
lead to incidents of post-traumatic stress and panic disorders when
these
children reach adulthood.
brains that makes future adults more susceptible to stress in their
lives,
say Commons and Miller.
harms the baby permanently," Commons said. "It changes the nervous
system
so
they're overly sensitive to future trauma."
learning
in
infants, and cultural differences, according to Charles R. Figley,
director
of the Traumatology Institute at Florida State University and editor of
The
Journal of Traumatology.
"It
accounts for cross-cultural differences in children's emotional response
and
their ability to cope with stress, including traumatic stress."
study and could have implications for everything from parents' efforts
to
intellectually stimulate infants to practices such as circumcision.
School's Department of Psychiatry since 1987 and is a member of the
Department's Program in Psychiatry and the Law.
psychology
at Salem State College since 1993. She received master's and doctorate
degrees in human development from the Graduate School of Education.
fears that children will grow up dependent. But they say that parents
are
on
the wrong track: physical contact and reassurance will make children
more
secure and better able to form adult relationships when they finally
head
out on their own.
ideas at the American Association for the Advancement of Science's
annual
meeting in Philadelphia.
and
Human Development, contrasted American childrearing practices with those
of
other cultures, particularly the Gusii people of Kenya. Gusii mothers
sleep
with their babies and respond rapidly when the baby cries.
long it took these mothers to respond to infant crying," Commons and
Miller
said in their paper on the subject.
themselves on independence to the point of isolation, even when
undergoing a
difficult or stressful time.
in
the room with them, at least initially. In addition, once the child can
crawl around, she believes many find their way into their parents' room
on
their own.
to
baby their babies, Commons and Miller said. Parents should feel free to
sleep with their infant children, to keep their toddlers nearby, perhaps
on
a mattress in the same room, and to comfort a baby when it cries.
through this trauma," Commons said. "My advice is to keep the kids
secure
so
they can grow up and take some risks."
form our childrearing practices, including fears that children would
interfere with sex if they shared their parents' room and doctors'
concerns
that a baby would be injured by a parent rolling on it if the parent and
baby shared the bed. Additionally, the nation's growing wealth has
helped
the trend toward separation by giving families the means to buy larger
homes
with separate rooms for children.
caring for its own children, a violent nation marked by loose,
nonphysical
relationships.
a
good way to get warm, caring, independent people."
twice. I looked for the original, but I'm guessing it was on a news service
and not out on the net yet, but I did find little bits about the authors and
other research they've done.
I'm sorry for the formatting, too, but I think it's VERY worth reading, and
ties in to some of our discussions a week or so ago:
> Children Need Touching and Attention, Harvard Researchers Saymore
> By Alvin Powell
>
> Contributing Writer
>
> America's "let them cry" attitude toward children may lead to
fears and tears among adults, according to two Harvard Medical School
researchers.
>their
> Instead of letting infants cry, American parents should keep
babies close, console them when they cry, and bring them to bed with
them,
where they'll feel safe, according to Michael L. Commons and Patrice M.
Miller, researchers at the Medical School's Department of Psychiatry.
>cultures
> The pair examined childrearing practices here and in other
and say the widespread American practice of putting babies in separate
beds -- even separate rooms -- and not responding quickly to their cries
may
lead to incidents of post-traumatic stress and panic disorders when
these
children reach adulthood.
>infant
> The early stress resulting from separation causes changes in
brains that makes future adults more susceptible to stress in their
lives,
say Commons and Miller.
>unnecessarily
> "Parents should recognize that having their babies cry
harms the baby permanently," Commons said. "It changes the nervous
system
so
they're overly sensitive to future trauma."
>cross-disciplinary approach, examining brain function, emotional
> The Harvard researchers' work is unique because it takes a
learning
in
infants, and cultural differences, according to Charles R. Figley,
director
of the Traumatology Institute at Florida State University and editor of
The
Journal of Traumatology.
>interdisciplinary and multidisciplinary research report," Figley said.
> "It is very unusual but extremely important to find this kind of
"It
accounts for cross-cultural differences in children's emotional response
and
their ability to cope with stress, including traumatic stress."
>further
> Figley said Commons and Miller's work illuminates a route of
study and could have implications for everything from parents' efforts
to
intellectually stimulate infants to practices such as circumcision.
>Medical
> Commons has been a lecturer and research associate at the
School's Department of Psychiatry since 1987 and is a member of the
Department's Program in Psychiatry and the Law.
>Psychiatry and the Law since 1994 and an assistant professor of
> Miller has been a research associate at the School's Program in
psychology
at Salem State College since 1993. She received master's and doctorate
degrees in human development from the Graduate School of Education.
>by
> The pair say that American childrearing practices are influenced
fears that children will grow up dependent. But they say that parents
are
on
the wrong track: physical contact and reassurance will make children
more
secure and better able to form adult relationships when they finally
head
out on their own.
>negative side effects," Miller said.
> "We've stressed independence so much that it's having some very
>their
> The two gained the spotlight in February when they presented
ideas at the American Association for the Advancement of Science's
annual
meeting in Philadelphia.
>compiled by Robert A. LeVine, Roy Edward Larsen Professor of Education
> Commons and Miller, using data Miller had worked on that was
and
Human Development, contrasted American childrearing practices with those
of
other cultures, particularly the Gusii people of Kenya. Gusii mothers
sleep
with their babies and respond rapidly when the baby cries.
>how
> "Gusii mothers watching videotapes of U.S. mothers were upset by
long it took these mothers to respond to infant crying," Commons and
Miller
said in their paper on the subject.
>Miller say. Americans in general don't like to be touched and pride
> The way we are brought up colors our entire society, Commons and
themselves on independence to the point of isolation, even when
undergoing a
difficult or stressful time.
>alone, Miller said she believes many parents "cheat," keeping the baby
> Despite the conventional wisdom that babies should learn to be
in
the room with them, at least initially. In addition, once the child can
crawl around, she believes many find their way into their parents' room
on
their own.
>afraid
> American parents shouldn't worry about this behavior or be
to
baby their babies, Commons and Miller said. Parents should feel free to
sleep with their infant children, to keep their toddlers nearby, perhaps
on
a mattress in the same room, and to comfort a baby when it cries.
>babies
> "There are ways to grow up and be independent without putting
through this trauma," Commons said. "My advice is to keep the kids
secure
so
they can grow up and take some risks."
>helped
> Besides fears of dependence, the pair said other factors have
form our childrearing practices, including fears that children would
interfere with sex if they shared their parents' room and doctors'
concerns
that a baby would be injured by a parent rolling on it if the parent and
baby shared the bed. Additionally, the nation's growing wealth has
helped
the trend toward separation by giving families the means to buy larger
homes
with separate rooms for children.
>like
> The result, Commons and Miller said, is a nation that doesn't
caring for its own children, a violent nation marked by loose,
nonphysical
relationships.
>children," Commons said. But "punishment and abandonment has never been
> "I think there's a real resistance in this culture to caring for
a
good way to get warm, caring, independent people."
>
>
>
> Copyright 1998 President and Fellows of Harvard College
>
>
> April 09, 1998
Jorgen & Ann
<<good way to get warm, caring, independent people."
Ann
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>Did you notice the 1998 date? Has anyone seen this before?
>
>
> Copyright 1998 President and Fellows of Harvard College
>
>
> April 09, 1998>>
Ann
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In a message dated 1/22/02 9:37:48 AM, stargate@... writes:
<< Did you notice the 1998 date? >>
Nope. <g>
There was a list of published articles under the Miller-professor's site, and
she's done lots of research in this parental contact/cross-cultural stuff.
Sandra
<< Did you notice the 1998 date? >>
Nope. <g>
There was a list of published articles under the Miller-professor's site, and
she's done lots of research in this parental contact/cross-cultural stuff.
Sandra
micnico1
My first child was kept in bed with us for many months and then(foolishly listening to others)we kicked him out. This was very difficult for me, but I was young and thought everyone else knew what they were talking about. My son is now 6 and back in bed with us at his request. I am sure he feels safe again because he goes to sleep with the sweetest grin on his face every night as I sing to him. My deepest desire is that this will magically erase what I feel was a major trauma of his infancy. I wish I would have known. No, I wish I would have trusted myself, I did know.
----- Original Message -----
From: SandraDodd@...
To: [email protected]
Sent: Tuesday, January 22, 2002 7:59 AM
Subject: [AlwaysLearning] "Homeschooling is about Parenting, too!"
This was posted on another list. Sorry for those of you who might get it
twice. I looked for the original, but I'm guessing it was on a news service
and not out on the net yet, but I did find little bits about the authors and
other research they've done.
I'm sorry for the formatting, too, but I think it's VERY worth reading, and
ties in to some of our discussions a week or so ago:
> Children Need Touching and Attention, Harvard Researchers Say
> By Alvin Powell
>
> Contributing Writer
>
> America's "let them cry" attitude toward children may lead to
more
fears and tears among adults, according to two Harvard Medical School
researchers.
>
> Instead of letting infants cry, American parents should keep
their
babies close, console them when they cry, and bring them to bed with
them,
where they'll feel safe, according to Michael L. Commons and Patrice M.
Miller, researchers at the Medical School's Department of Psychiatry.
>
> The pair examined childrearing practices here and in other
cultures
and say the widespread American practice of putting babies in separate
beds -- even separate rooms -- and not responding quickly to their cries
may
lead to incidents of post-traumatic stress and panic disorders when
these
children reach adulthood.
>
> The early stress resulting from separation causes changes in
infant
brains that makes future adults more susceptible to stress in their
lives,
say Commons and Miller.
>
> "Parents should recognize that having their babies cry
unnecessarily
harms the baby permanently," Commons said. "It changes the nervous
system
so
they're overly sensitive to future trauma."
>
> The Harvard researchers' work is unique because it takes a
cross-disciplinary approach, examining brain function, emotional
learning
in
infants, and cultural differences, according to Charles R. Figley,
director
of the Traumatology Institute at Florida State University and editor of
The
Journal of Traumatology.
>
> "It is very unusual but extremely important to find this kind of
interdisciplinary and multidisciplinary research report," Figley said.
"It
accounts for cross-cultural differences in children's emotional response
and
their ability to cope with stress, including traumatic stress."
>
> Figley said Commons and Miller's work illuminates a route of
further
study and could have implications for everything from parents' efforts
to
intellectually stimulate infants to practices such as circumcision.
>
> Commons has been a lecturer and research associate at the
Medical
School's Department of Psychiatry since 1987 and is a member of the
Department's Program in Psychiatry and the Law.
>
> Miller has been a research associate at the School's Program in
Psychiatry and the Law since 1994 and an assistant professor of
psychology
at Salem State College since 1993. She received master's and doctorate
degrees in human development from the Graduate School of Education.
>
> The pair say that American childrearing practices are influenced
by
fears that children will grow up dependent. But they say that parents
are
on
the wrong track: physical contact and reassurance will make children
more
secure and better able to form adult relationships when they finally
head
out on their own.
>
> "We've stressed independence so much that it's having some very
negative side effects," Miller said.
>
> The two gained the spotlight in February when they presented
their
ideas at the American Association for the Advancement of Science's
annual
meeting in Philadelphia.
>
> Commons and Miller, using data Miller had worked on that was
compiled by Robert A. LeVine, Roy Edward Larsen Professor of Education
and
Human Development, contrasted American childrearing practices with those
of
other cultures, particularly the Gusii people of Kenya. Gusii mothers
sleep
with their babies and respond rapidly when the baby cries.
>
> "Gusii mothers watching videotapes of U.S. mothers were upset by
how
long it took these mothers to respond to infant crying," Commons and
Miller
said in their paper on the subject.
>
> The way we are brought up colors our entire society, Commons and
Miller say. Americans in general don't like to be touched and pride
themselves on independence to the point of isolation, even when
undergoing a
difficult or stressful time.
>
> Despite the conventional wisdom that babies should learn to be
alone, Miller said she believes many parents "cheat," keeping the baby
in
the room with them, at least initially. In addition, once the child can
crawl around, she believes many find their way into their parents' room
on
their own.
>
> American parents shouldn't worry about this behavior or be
afraid
to
baby their babies, Commons and Miller said. Parents should feel free to
sleep with their infant children, to keep their toddlers nearby, perhaps
on
a mattress in the same room, and to comfort a baby when it cries.
>
> "There are ways to grow up and be independent without putting
babies
through this trauma," Commons said. "My advice is to keep the kids
secure
so
they can grow up and take some risks."
>
> Besides fears of dependence, the pair said other factors have
helped
form our childrearing practices, including fears that children would
interfere with sex if they shared their parents' room and doctors'
concerns
that a baby would be injured by a parent rolling on it if the parent and
baby shared the bed. Additionally, the nation's growing wealth has
helped
the trend toward separation by giving families the means to buy larger
homes
with separate rooms for children.
>
> The result, Commons and Miller said, is a nation that doesn't
like
caring for its own children, a violent nation marked by loose,
nonphysical
relationships.
>
> "I think there's a real resistance in this culture to caring for
children," Commons said. But "punishment and abandonment has never been
a
good way to get warm, caring, independent people."
>
>
>
> Copyright 1998 President and Fellows of Harvard College
>
>
> April 09, 1998
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Jorgen & Ann
<<There was a list of published articles under the Miller-professor's site, and she's done lots of research in this parental contact/cross-cultural stuff.>>
Just wondering why it didn't make a bigger splash earlier. Reminded me of Bruce Perry's work on how violence, fear, and emotional neglect affect brain development. It's very interesting stuff.
Ann
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Just wondering why it didn't make a bigger splash earlier. Reminded me of Bruce Perry's work on how violence, fear, and emotional neglect affect brain development. It's very interesting stuff.
Ann
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