Ren Allen

"Good for you for telling him the rules about alcohol."

Some rules are stupid. How does a person that has something forbidden
from them until they're 21, learn how to be responsible about the
forbidden thing? Whenever we're drinking wine or beer, we've let our
kids have a sip. By the time their teenagers, you better have an open
relationship, not one filled with fear and rules or you just won't
know about their habits.

In Europe, it's quite normal to give children beer or wine with meals.
I don't think forbidding it until 21 keeps people from drinking it,
just makes some things more secretive.

It's great to share information openly. Children are more likely to
listen if you aren't making a big deal about it.

Ren
learninginfreedom.com

Rue Kream

>>I dont think you were wrong at all for telling your son that he needs to
wait til he's 21. God forbid he drinks as a teen and gets behind the wheel
of a car and kills someone, or himself.

**Telling someone they 'need' to wait til they're 21 doesn't guarantee that
they'll wait til they're 21. It could possibly close a door of
communication, though, causing a teenager to hide that he's drinking and
lessening the chance that he'd call home when he needed a ride because he or
his friend/driver had been drinking.

And, of course, many drunk drivers are over 21.

>>"Good for you for telling him the rules about alcohol."

**In many states there are exceptions to the underage drinking laws, and
parents are permitted to allow their children alcohol in certain locations.
Here's a map:
http://alcoholpolicy.niaaa.nih.gov/index.asp?Type=BAS_APIS&SEC={B7EBF080-DB1
F-4092-9897-E3F083BB3075}&DE={8F469551-8EAE-4020-9538-8844EC5549B8}. ~Rue



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