neighbors
Momma
I was hoping to get some advice about a situation we are dealing with right
now.
We have just moved to a new area (rural) with only one neighbor. They have 2
children (5 & 2) and are a blended family with grandma raising the children.
I have 2 (7dd & 9ds). We have lived here just 3 weeks. I was excited at
first that my children would have new friends but it seems to be turning in
a bad direction. My dd has been called a stupid b**ch numerous times and
been hit and shoved many times. My ds came home crying and very upset today
that the little boy who is 5 had just thrown a kitten down 2 flights of
stairs. They are also very belligerent and rude to their grandmother. I am
not comfortable at all with the situation but I have never been in a
situation of having to step between mine and other people's children. My ds
has just about had it and is choosing not to play with the children much the
last few days but my dd, who is very social, still wants to play with them
all the time. How do you all feel about telling a child who they can play
with and who they can't? Is this a decision she needs to come to on her own?
I have talked to the little boy about how he was treating my dd and he seems
receptive and apologetic, but dd is back just a few minutes later crying.
I hope it is okay for me to ask this here.
Thanks, Dawn
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now.
We have just moved to a new area (rural) with only one neighbor. They have 2
children (5 & 2) and are a blended family with grandma raising the children.
I have 2 (7dd & 9ds). We have lived here just 3 weeks. I was excited at
first that my children would have new friends but it seems to be turning in
a bad direction. My dd has been called a stupid b**ch numerous times and
been hit and shoved many times. My ds came home crying and very upset today
that the little boy who is 5 had just thrown a kitten down 2 flights of
stairs. They are also very belligerent and rude to their grandmother. I am
not comfortable at all with the situation but I have never been in a
situation of having to step between mine and other people's children. My ds
has just about had it and is choosing not to play with the children much the
last few days but my dd, who is very social, still wants to play with them
all the time. How do you all feel about telling a child who they can play
with and who they can't? Is this a decision she needs to come to on her own?
I have talked to the little boy about how he was treating my dd and he seems
receptive and apologetic, but dd is back just a few minutes later crying.
I hope it is okay for me to ask this here.
Thanks, Dawn
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Pamela Sorooshian
On May 1, 2006, at 3:32 PM, Momma wrote:
desire to play with them. I'd think that would mean they play at your
house, under your supervision, only. And then you watch closely and
help those kids learn how to behave at your house. Send them home any
time your kids say they should go, but, unless things get worse, with
the option of them returning soon. They're very little, there is a
chance they could learn to behave better at your house than they do
at home - a good chance.
If the neighbors want to know why your kids don't play at their
house, you can say, "They're just not comfortable with that, right
now." No more explanation needed.
-pam
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> My dsYou protect your kids and find a way to say "yes" to your kid's
> has just about had it and is choosing not to play with the children
> much the
> last few days but my dd, who is very social, still wants to play
> with them
> all the time. How do you all feel about telling a child who they
> can play
> with and who they can't? Is this a decision she needs to come to on
> her own?
desire to play with them. I'd think that would mean they play at your
house, under your supervision, only. And then you watch closely and
help those kids learn how to behave at your house. Send them home any
time your kids say they should go, but, unless things get worse, with
the option of them returning soon. They're very little, there is a
chance they could learn to behave better at your house than they do
at home - a good chance.
If the neighbors want to know why your kids don't play at their
house, you can say, "They're just not comfortable with that, right
now." No more explanation needed.
-pam
Unschooling shirts, cups, bumper stickers, bags...
Live Love Learn
UNSCHOOL!
<http://www.cafepress.com/livelovelearn>
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Sandra Dodd
On May 1, 2006, at 4:32 PM, Momma wrote:
It will give you lots to discuss that might not have come up otherwise.
Sandra
> How do you all feel about telling a child who they can playI'd let her decide.
> with and who they can't? Is this a decision she needs to come to on
> her own?
It will give you lots to discuss that might not have come up otherwise.
Sandra
Lil Lawrence
Yikes, Dawn. My heart goes out to you. My dd (nearly 7) says that you
consider letting your daughter make her own choices. She has had at least
one relationship turn around. I greatly reduced the number of opportunities
for the offender to be in our company. I insisted that the offender (there
has been more than one abusive girl in our lives) be with my dd when I was
within earshot, at least and the moment that there was something that my
daughter was upset to tears, the 'date' immediately ended. I also have
spoken to at least one of the girls, letting her know that I understand that
her homelife may be contributing to her choices and that I expect her to
make respectful choices in her words and actions and that nothing else works
for me.
It's about me too.
hugs,
Lil
"You must be the change you want to see in the world." -Gandhi
unschooling is the way to world peace - me
children are born with the ability to learn whatever they need to know and
will do so, as long as they are not hindered by well-meaning people trying
to teach them - John Holt
It takes a village to (support the parents that) raise a child... - (old
African proverb modified by me)
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From: "Momma" <southernbelle@...>
Reply-To: [email protected]
To: <[email protected]>
Subject: [AlwaysLearning] neighbors
Date: Mon, 1 May 2006 17:32:51 -0500
I was hoping to get some advice about a situation we are dealing with right
now.
We have just moved to a new area (rural) with only one neighbor. They have 2
children (5 & 2) and are a blended family with grandma raising the children.
I have 2 (7dd & 9ds). We have lived here just 3 weeks. I was excited at
first that my children would have new friends but it seems to be turning in
a bad direction. My dd has been called a stupid b**ch numerous times and
been hit and shoved many times. My ds came home crying and very upset today
that the little boy who is 5 had just thrown a kitten down 2 flights of
stairs. They are also very belligerent and rude to their grandmother. I am
not comfortable at all with the situation but I have never been in a
situation of having to step between mine and other people's children. My ds
has just about had it and is choosing not to play with the children much the
last few days but my dd, who is very social, still wants to play with them
all the time. How do you all feel about telling a child who they can play
with and who they can't? Is this a decision she needs to come to on her own?
I have talked to the little boy about how he was treating my dd and he seems
receptive and apologetic, but dd is back just a few minutes later crying.
I hope it is okay for me to ask this here.
Thanks, Dawn
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consider letting your daughter make her own choices. She has had at least
one relationship turn around. I greatly reduced the number of opportunities
for the offender to be in our company. I insisted that the offender (there
has been more than one abusive girl in our lives) be with my dd when I was
within earshot, at least and the moment that there was something that my
daughter was upset to tears, the 'date' immediately ended. I also have
spoken to at least one of the girls, letting her know that I understand that
her homelife may be contributing to her choices and that I expect her to
make respectful choices in her words and actions and that nothing else works
for me.
It's about me too.
hugs,
Lil
"You must be the change you want to see in the world." -Gandhi
unschooling is the way to world peace - me
children are born with the ability to learn whatever they need to know and
will do so, as long as they are not hindered by well-meaning people trying
to teach them - John Holt
It takes a village to (support the parents that) raise a child... - (old
African proverb modified by me)
----Original Message Follows----
From: "Momma" <southernbelle@...>
Reply-To: [email protected]
To: <[email protected]>
Subject: [AlwaysLearning] neighbors
Date: Mon, 1 May 2006 17:32:51 -0500
I was hoping to get some advice about a situation we are dealing with right
now.
We have just moved to a new area (rural) with only one neighbor. They have 2
children (5 & 2) and are a blended family with grandma raising the children.
I have 2 (7dd & 9ds). We have lived here just 3 weeks. I was excited at
first that my children would have new friends but it seems to be turning in
a bad direction. My dd has been called a stupid b**ch numerous times and
been hit and shoved many times. My ds came home crying and very upset today
that the little boy who is 5 had just thrown a kitten down 2 flights of
stairs. They are also very belligerent and rude to their grandmother. I am
not comfortable at all with the situation but I have never been in a
situation of having to step between mine and other people's children. My ds
has just about had it and is choosing not to play with the children much the
last few days but my dd, who is very social, still wants to play with them
all the time. How do you all feel about telling a child who they can play
with and who they can't? Is this a decision she needs to come to on her own?
I have talked to the little boy about how he was treating my dd and he seems
receptive and apologetic, but dd is back just a few minutes later crying.
I hope it is okay for me to ask this here.
Thanks, Dawn
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