Nanci K.

>For this list, I'm concerned only with what makes children's lives
>easier, not what makes their mothers feel more important or martyrly
>or special.

>Many people have said when they moved their focus from their own
>concerns and feelings onto their children's comfort and joy, there
>was enough comfort and joy for the whole family and some to spread
>around. In a mother-focussed home, unschooling won't work very well.

>Labels go too far from about the time they're brought out and
>examined. Let schools have them. We can live with our individual
>children and help them have happy lives of learning and growth.
>Sandra

I did think we were talking about what makes a child's life easier,
not about mother's wanting to label their kids (I don't and didn't and
wasn't looking to ever labal my kids) or about mother's wanting to
feel better about themselves or whatever by labeling their kids. Or
at least that's what I was trying to talk about. Part of the
conversation and comments I made were from the perspective of talking
about myself, my own difficulties in different areas, so I think that
caused some confusion, because I wasn't always talking about my
children per se. But in a sense I was talking about my kids too, and
what it might be like for them to interact with the world firsthand
based on what I know it's like for me to interact with the world
firsthand. I was trying to use first hand specific examples and not
use generalities and vagueness, because I have heard Sandra ask many
times for specifics and actual experiences and not theories and
guesses and generalities. I'm sorry if I did wrong by doing so.

This has been a really positive discussion overall I think, with a lot
of really good information and valid points made and lots to learn and
discuss. I know there is lots for me to learn and consider.

Nanci K.