spilled milk
sam
I've mentioned my old attitude and how I'm working on things. I had
an awesome moment about half an hour ago that made me feel really
good. My youngest son told me matter of factly that he had spilled
his milk. I got up, found something close to begin cleaning and asked
him to get another towel that was farther away, but was big enough to
finish the job. We cleaned the milk up together and got him into some
new clothes. This probably sounds really simple, and basically, the
actions were the same ones I would have followed just a few months
ago. The spill was cleaned and the clothes changed. The difference
this time was that no one yelled, screamed, sighed, huffed, growled,
stomped and no one else cried, screamed or got scared of his father.
It also took a fraction of the time to just smile and wipe.
In the middle of all that I had a moment where I realized how much
nicer it was to just deal with the situation. It wasn't a moment to
teach him not to spill his milk. It wasn't a moment to deride or
correct. It was just spilled milk and a little boy with a cold strip
down the front of his clothes. And that's all they ever are, just
spilled milk and soggy britches.
an awesome moment about half an hour ago that made me feel really
good. My youngest son told me matter of factly that he had spilled
his milk. I got up, found something close to begin cleaning and asked
him to get another towel that was farther away, but was big enough to
finish the job. We cleaned the milk up together and got him into some
new clothes. This probably sounds really simple, and basically, the
actions were the same ones I would have followed just a few months
ago. The spill was cleaned and the clothes changed. The difference
this time was that no one yelled, screamed, sighed, huffed, growled,
stomped and no one else cried, screamed or got scared of his father.
It also took a fraction of the time to just smile and wipe.
In the middle of all that I had a moment where I realized how much
nicer it was to just deal with the situation. It wasn't a moment to
teach him not to spill his milk. It wasn't a moment to deride or
correct. It was just spilled milk and a little boy with a cold strip
down the front of his clothes. And that's all they ever are, just
spilled milk and soggy britches.
Sandra Dodd
On Jan 14, 2006, at 12:46 PM, sam wrote:
Beautiful.
Beautiful writing, too, and thanks for sharing it here.
I'm saving it somewhere...
My moment like that was when I spilled a whole baby bathtub of water
and didn't yelp or cry or say bad words or feel like a failure.
Your story's prettier, but I still remember the feeling of surprising
myself by my calm response.
Ren and some of the others here might remember their first time too.
<g> Any other stories?
Sandra
> This probably sounds really simple, and basically, the====================
> actions were the same ones I would have followed just a few months
> ago. The spill was cleaned and the clothes changed. The difference
> this time was that no one yelled, screamed, sighed, huffed, growled,
> stomped and no one else cried, screamed or got scared of his father.
Beautiful.
Beautiful writing, too, and thanks for sharing it here.
I'm saving it somewhere...
My moment like that was when I spilled a whole baby bathtub of water
and didn't yelp or cry or say bad words or feel like a failure.
Your story's prettier, but I still remember the feeling of surprising
myself by my calm response.
Ren and some of the others here might remember their first time too.
<g> Any other stories?
Sandra
Krystal French
Awesome! Wish my ex could have gotten "it" with our 4 boys. :-)
sam <andextradays@...> wrote: I've mentioned my old attitude and how I'm working on things. I had
an awesome moment about half an hour ago that made me feel really
good. My youngest son told me matter of factly that he had spilled
his milk. I got up, found something close to begin cleaning and asked
him to get another towel that was farther away, but was big enough to
finish the job. We cleaned the milk up together and got him into some
new clothes. This probably sounds really simple, and basically, the
actions were the same ones I would have followed just a few months
ago. The spill was cleaned and the clothes changed. The difference
this time was that no one yelled, screamed, sighed, huffed, growled,
stomped and no one else cried, screamed or got scared of his father.
It also took a fraction of the time to just smile and wipe.
In the middle of all that I had a moment where I realized how much
nicer it was to just deal with the situation. It wasn't a moment to
teach him not to spill his milk. It wasn't a moment to deride or
correct. It was just spilled milk and a little boy with a cold strip
down the front of his clothes. And that's all they ever are, just
spilled milk and soggy britches.
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sam <andextradays@...> wrote: I've mentioned my old attitude and how I'm working on things. I had
an awesome moment about half an hour ago that made me feel really
good. My youngest son told me matter of factly that he had spilled
his milk. I got up, found something close to begin cleaning and asked
him to get another towel that was farther away, but was big enough to
finish the job. We cleaned the milk up together and got him into some
new clothes. This probably sounds really simple, and basically, the
actions were the same ones I would have followed just a few months
ago. The spill was cleaned and the clothes changed. The difference
this time was that no one yelled, screamed, sighed, huffed, growled,
stomped and no one else cried, screamed or got scared of his father.
It also took a fraction of the time to just smile and wipe.
In the middle of all that I had a moment where I realized how much
nicer it was to just deal with the situation. It wasn't a moment to
teach him not to spill his milk. It wasn't a moment to deride or
correct. It was just spilled milk and a little boy with a cold strip
down the front of his clothes. And that's all they ever are, just
spilled milk and soggy britches.
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queenjane555
>The difference this time was that no one yelled, screamed, sighed,I used to get really upset about things (i tend to be a yeller, tend
>huffed, growled, stomped and no one else cried, screamed or got
>scared of his father.
to quickly get angry ), but since we've been unschooling its been
easier. It was cool the first couple of times something like that
happened, something broke, or seamus knocked a whole glass of
something over, and then looked at me like "uh oh, whats she gonna
say?"...and i just laughed. He looked so relieved. Whats even better
though is that now he doesnt usually give me the look, doesnt look
relieved, because he isnt *expecting* me to get upset, usually he's
expecting me NOT to get upset. Which makes me feel like i really AM
doing something right!
Katherine
diana jenner
sam wrote:
Evolution isn't over!!!! ;) diana
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>It was just spilled milk and a little boy with a cold stripDon't forget, there's a little boy who's trust in his father is boosted!
>down the front of his clothes. And that's all they ever are, just
>spilled milk and soggy britches.
>
Evolution isn't over!!!! ;) diana
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