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>>Then I got to the last sentence: "It's a very typical
>>aspie thing." And suddenly a big silent wall went up bang between me and
the experience
>>you dh has and it seemed like I couldn't relate at all<<

Yeah, I can see what you are saying. There was very little description there
that seemed any different from any regular Joe.

But there is a big difference, and that's where using that aspie label CAN
be useful. His experience probably is different from yours. I can say that
there is a difference between my dh's tolerances and approximately 98% of
the hundreds (maybe thousands?) of people that I know. His responses to the
world are in a very small percentage of my known reality of many people over
many years. So the description above FOR HIM looks more intense than most
other people I've spent lots of time with. Having been on the planet for
over 41 years, that's enough people, in my opinion to make this distinction.
And using that term "Aspie", for me, helps to say "It's much more intense
than the majority of people in the world".

Nanci I want to thank you for taking the time to give great detail to the
actual experience of an autistic person. It was very well written and
accurate to what I hear from my two guys.

Jacki