Words/Choices was TCS. ..
AM Brown
I think the words we use are important to ourselves and those around us -
they set the stage so to speak. In the emails I have read - "it's non
negotiable" and "that's not an option". Those types of lay down the law
statements really set others up to feel and act defensively. It shuts down
any hope of finding solutions and having open communications.
What works for us is to share how we are feeling, be genuine and not
defensive and be open to hearing the same from others (spouse, children,
etc.) I have found when I explain why something is so important to me, my
children get it and respect it. I believe that is because they know they
will get the same treatment from me. I think this goes back to our
discussion a month ago about choices. There is *always* a choice, many in
fact. And I choose to be positive and happy and work with in that frame
work to find solutions. My dds are amazing at finding alternatives that
work for all of us. They are endlessly creative and very respectful of my
needs and each other's needs.
So for me, it's not about TCS or anything like that, it is just about
respecting each other and trying to live together in harmony. Sounds
cheesy I guess but it works for us.
Anna
they set the stage so to speak. In the emails I have read - "it's non
negotiable" and "that's not an option". Those types of lay down the law
statements really set others up to feel and act defensively. It shuts down
any hope of finding solutions and having open communications.
What works for us is to share how we are feeling, be genuine and not
defensive and be open to hearing the same from others (spouse, children,
etc.) I have found when I explain why something is so important to me, my
children get it and respect it. I believe that is because they know they
will get the same treatment from me. I think this goes back to our
discussion a month ago about choices. There is *always* a choice, many in
fact. And I choose to be positive and happy and work with in that frame
work to find solutions. My dds are amazing at finding alternatives that
work for all of us. They are endlessly creative and very respectful of my
needs and each other's needs.
So for me, it's not about TCS or anything like that, it is just about
respecting each other and trying to live together in harmony. Sounds
cheesy I guess but it works for us.
Anna
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In a message dated 7/24/04 11:31:27 AM, ambdkf@... writes:
<< So for me, it's not about TCS or anything like that, it is just about
respecting each other and trying to live together in harmony. Sounds
cheesy I guess but it works for us. >>
Doesn't sound at all cheesy to me.
I don't think we need new vocabulary to treat our children as kindly and
respectfully as we treat our adult friends. We don't need to have a special
philosophy to acknowledge that it's their house too, not just ours.
Sandra
<< So for me, it's not about TCS or anything like that, it is just about
respecting each other and trying to live together in harmony. Sounds
cheesy I guess but it works for us. >>
Doesn't sound at all cheesy to me.
I don't think we need new vocabulary to treat our children as kindly and
respectfully as we treat our adult friends. We don't need to have a special
philosophy to acknowledge that it's their house too, not just ours.
Sandra
pam sorooshian
On Jul 24, 2004, at 9:59 AM, AM Brown wrote:
-pam
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> So for me, it's not about TCS or anything like that, it is just aboutSimple and nice, Anna.
> respecting each other and trying to live together in harmony. Sounds
> cheesy I guess but it works for us.
-pam
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