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In a message dated 4/17/2004 9:36:12 AM Eastern Daylight Time,
[email protected] writes:

> So I would really like some feedback on if I did the
> right thing here - I was finally feeling like I was getting the
> correct "ideas" of this "unschooling or Life Learning", that it was
> starting to make sense to me, and my son is so much happier than he
> was in school, but now that my closest "unschooling" friend is
> questioning me so I feel confused again.
>

I think your friend may simply be reacting out of protecting her beloved.
She "questioned" you, you answered her. You stayed with your beliefs. Well
done.

Now the trick, imo, is to let it go. You were challenged and handled it
well.

I have a theory about the 'comfusion' you're experiencing, too. (my local
friends get lots of my theories so here's one for you, too!)..... When we
explore emotions/theories or try on a new attitude or behavior or whatever, there
is not only a thinking change but also a bodily change. I think the whole body
needs to adjusts. So perhaps your 'comfusion' is simply your body settling
in to a new/different way of 'being'..... a different way of handling
situations.... a different way of explaining your actions and theories..... simply a
difference..... so your body/mind is adjusting..... it feels like 'confusion' -
maybe conflict - but perhaps it's growth and adjustment ......

Just a theory....... What's your take on what I've said?

(And, now, with my other theory of what we say to others is what we need to
hear ourselves, I'll re-read what I've written as a message to me!)

Jane





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