Teresa Jones

Hi again Sandra,

I must say I do have one daughter who finds interpersonal issues very difficult and is a volatile type of personality (rather like her father!). She does have some food allergies, but they do not make a difference regarding her personality traits! She reacts to wheat (tummy troubles) and still some to milk. She is a much happier 12 year old when these foods are kept to a minimum, but her personality traits are just that, personality traits!

It is a difficult subject but, with carefulness, you can soon see if this is just a personality trait (which can also be seen by looking at family personalities), or whether it is a behavioural reaction to a food.

Sincerely,
Teresa
Mumto5kidz :D
living in New Zealand


----- Original Message -----
From: SandraDodd@...
To: [email protected]
Sent: Tuesday, March 16, 2004 4:52 AM
Subject: Re: [AlwaysLearning] Re: [Somewhat Off] Horrbile Tantrums



In a message dated 3/14/04 9:25:04 PM, mostofus@... writes:

<<
The final test is to re-introduce the suspect food. If the problems return
then you have a confirmation as to whether this was the problem or not. :D >>

I understand the theory, but it could still fail.
There are lots of factors in life, and kids just get older and grow into and
out of and through different phases.

There seems to be a fad lately of magically controlling kids with drugs or
deprivations or dietary restrictions, when in many cases talking to them and
helping them figure out how to make decisions and express themselves would help
MUCH more.

Yes, there are allergies.

But there seem to be more and more moms who turn to look for allergies
instead of learning to deal with interpersonal issues.

And granted, Howard Gardners ideas of multiple intelligences (which I love a
bunch) suggest that some people just are better than others with interpersonal
stuff. And that might be passed on genetically, just as other talents can
be, but can and should be nurtured and discussed.

<<What if you had made sure he was wearing green socks the whole month during
which he had a growth-spurt in the awareness area? Could you then be sure
green socks were to be creditted?

<< There are correlations which aren't causes, and children change many time
and
many different ways just by growing older and having more experience in how
to handle their own emotions and moods and sensitivities.>>

If the green socks are removed and a problem returns, it might not have been
because of the socks.

Much religious practice and superstition seems based in futile attempts to
control the world, some of which seemed to work a time or two and so are
repeated through the centuries.

<<My daughter started having "horrible tantrums" when she was

2&1/2 and at first I thought it was the "terrible twos" that had

finally kicked in. Then when that didn't sit well my my mother's

intuition/instincts, I realized that I had started eating peanut butter

again recently after a long time of not eating it. Since I was

nursing her, she was getting it too. I quit eating PB and within 24

hours they were gone. The only time this has reocured is when

she has accidentally ingested PB and she wakes up at night

completely disoriented, screaming and crying.>>

This account seems plausible, but not all sworn food-sensitivities have this
close a correlation. I'm not talking about specific people here on this list,
but about the overall trend toward people wanting outside causes for
personality traits.

And this inability to process peanut butter could easily be something a child
grows out of. Lots of kids will get hives or stomach upsets from one food or
another (strawberries, common on the hives) when they're little but be able
to tolerate the foods fine when they're older.

Sandra

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