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Taunya writes:
<<<<<<< Speaking of which I meant to tell all of those awesome
suggestions for the custody hearing were greatly appreciated. His
request was denied. Yippeee!! The judge did order we get a guardian
ad litem. If anyone has any other words of wisdom about that, I'd
love them. >>>>>>>>>>>>>>

Below is some advice from a friend of mine going through a nasty
divorce. She's really savvy - not an unschooler though. She advises
that you tell the Guardian ad Litem (GAL) everything. I wouldn't take
on explaining or justifying unschooling to the GAL. Maybe when you
need to talk about education stuff, consider using schoolish
vocabulary - good examples of this at
http://sandradodd.com/unschoolingcurriculum.html

Hope this helps.

Mercedes


Best advice I can give is to get good recommendation for a GAL -
someone with experience and a history of fairness, and tell the GAL
EVERYTHING. Send a weekly update on the child (schedule, activities,
significant moments, etc..), communicate with the ex-husband only by
e-mail so that there is a record, and send the GAL copies of all e-
mails. If weird stuff happens, sum it up and send an e-mail to the
GAL. The husband's only weapon is to create an air of concern about
the welfare of child. If she keeps her life and the child's an open
book, that weapon is gone. She doesn't have to follow all of the
norms for the courts to find her to be a good mother, she just has to
be a good mom. It's okay for the GAL to know that her son isn't
always thrilled with her, and for the GAL to know how she handles
that. The GAL will know that kids are kids - she/he wants to know how
the parents handle it.

one4oneness

Again I say thanks.



--- In [email protected], mulwiler@h... wrote:
> Taunya writes:
> <<<<<<< Speaking of which I meant to tell all of those awesome
> suggestions for the custody hearing were greatly appreciated. His
> request was denied. Yippeee!! The judge did order we get a
guardian
> ad litem. If anyone has any other words of wisdom about that, I'd
> love them. >>>>>>>>>>>>>>
>
> Below is some advice from a friend of mine going through a nasty
> divorce. She's really savvy - not an unschooler though. She
advises
> that you tell the Guardian ad Litem (GAL) everything. I wouldn't
take
> on explaining or justifying unschooling to the GAL. Maybe when you
> need to talk about education stuff, consider using schoolish
> vocabulary - good examples of this at
> http://sandradodd.com/unschoolingcurriculum.html
>
> Hope this helps.
>
> Mercedes
>
>
> Best advice I can give is to get good recommendation for a GAL -
> someone with experience and a history of fairness, and tell the
GAL
> EVERYTHING. Send a weekly update on the child (schedule,
activities,
> significant moments, etc..), communicate with the ex-husband only
by
> e-mail so that there is a record, and send the GAL copies of all e-
> mails. If weird stuff happens, sum it up and send an e-mail to the
> GAL. The husband's only weapon is to create an air of concern
about
> the welfare of child. If she keeps her life and the child's an
open
> book, that weapon is gone. She doesn't have to follow all of the
> norms for the courts to find her to be a good mother, she just has
to
> be a good mom. It's okay for the GAL to know that her son isn't
> always thrilled with her, and for the GAL to know how she handles
> that. The GAL will know that kids are kids - she/he wants to know
how
> the parents handle it.