Re: [AlwaysLearning] Re: Leaving kids home alone
Kerrin or Ralph Taylor
I think that like all the other stages our kids go through, readiness to be left alone isn't necessarily age related. My son Rubin, who is 13 likes to stay home and is alone every Friday while the rest of us go to town. He has also spent the night by himself. Beldon (10) likes to stay with Rubin, but not by himself. They are all happy to be left with Erin (14). Murphy and Vivi (5& 8) are OK while I go out for a walk or something.
One complication that we have here is that it is illegal to leave children under 14. I don't worry about it too much, but there is always the nagging thought that some interfering person might ring the authorities because they disagree with how our kids are raised and educated.
Kerrin.
But while we're on the subject - how old do you think a child should be before being left alone.?
Anyway - thanks,
Janis
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One complication that we have here is that it is illegal to leave children under 14. I don't worry about it too much, but there is always the nagging thought that some interfering person might ring the authorities because they disagree with how our kids are raised and educated.
Kerrin.
But while we're on the subject - how old do you think a child should be before being left alone.?
Anyway - thanks,
Janis
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Alan & Brenda Leonard
4/24/03 11:58:
son alone until he's 11. Period. Not even for 5 minutes to go to the
neighbor and get somethinig. I think that's dumb.
At 11 I can leave him for 3 hours, as long as he has access to an adult.
Now, how he's supposed to be ready for that, I don't know, since he doesn't
get to build up to it. But that's the army for you.
I disagree with it, and I've challenged this regulation recently. No answer
yet, which didn't really surprise me. But besides being reported to Family
Advocacy and Social Services, I can also lose my command sponsorship to stay
in Germany and be kicked out of housing. So I try to behave. I refuse to
commently in a public forum about how successful I've been at behaving....
brenda
> One complication that we have here is that it is illegal to leave childrenThat's my problem, too. The military regulations tell me I can't leave my
> under 14. I don't worry about it too much, but there is always the nagging
> thought that some interfering person might ring the authorities because they
> disagree with how our kids are raised and educated.
son alone until he's 11. Period. Not even for 5 minutes to go to the
neighbor and get somethinig. I think that's dumb.
At 11 I can leave him for 3 hours, as long as he has access to an adult.
Now, how he's supposed to be ready for that, I don't know, since he doesn't
get to build up to it. But that's the army for you.
I disagree with it, and I've challenged this regulation recently. No answer
yet, which didn't really surprise me. But besides being reported to Family
Advocacy and Social Services, I can also lose my command sponsorship to stay
in Germany and be kicked out of housing. So I try to behave. I refuse to
commently in a public forum about how successful I've been at behaving....
brenda
coyote's corner
Yes, it's illegal here. My problem though is the guy upstairs. He's been supportive of Coyotes Corner (our home business); however, I strongly suspect he has Aspergers Syndrome - for those that are unfamiliar - Aspergers folks are very high functioning in certain areas, w/ little or no social skills.
That translates into poor choices on his part - trust me - we have many examples!! For example - he'll knock on the door forever - one night Brianna & I were lying down in the far bedroom reading. He saw the van - he knocked for over 20 minutes, while calling on the home phone and the cell phone - and calling our dog "Come on Teah, come here girl" - so Teah started barking, etc.
Brianna finally answered.
He said he wanted to make sure we were ok.
I fear that if I left her alone and he heard her and Teah, he would be knocking and calling - perhaps calling the authorities - to make sure she's ok.
I've pointed out that no one is obligated to answer a phone or a door.
He doesn't get it.
The fact of the matter is, I have no one to leave Brianna with, so I end up taking her or not going.
I guess that's okay - heck, soon enough, she'll outgrow this stage and I'll miss it.
Janis
That translates into poor choices on his part - trust me - we have many examples!! For example - he'll knock on the door forever - one night Brianna & I were lying down in the far bedroom reading. He saw the van - he knocked for over 20 minutes, while calling on the home phone and the cell phone - and calling our dog "Come on Teah, come here girl" - so Teah started barking, etc.
Brianna finally answered.
He said he wanted to make sure we were ok.
I fear that if I left her alone and he heard her and Teah, he would be knocking and calling - perhaps calling the authorities - to make sure she's ok.
I've pointed out that no one is obligated to answer a phone or a door.
He doesn't get it.
The fact of the matter is, I have no one to leave Brianna with, so I end up taking her or not going.
I guess that's okay - heck, soon enough, she'll outgrow this stage and I'll miss it.
Janis
----- Original Message -----
From: Kerrin or Ralph Taylor
To: [email protected]
Sent: Wednesday, April 23, 2003 9:20 PM
Subject: Re: [AlwaysLearning] Re: Leaving kids home alone
I think that like all the other stages our kids go through, readiness to be left alone isn't necessarily age related. My son Rubin, who is 13 likes to stay home and is alone every Friday while the rest of us go to town. He has also spent the night by himself. Beldon (10) likes to stay with Rubin, but not by himself. They are all happy to be left with Erin (14). Murphy and Vivi (5& 8) are OK while I go out for a walk or something.
One complication that we have here is that it is illegal to leave children under 14. I don't worry about it too much, but there is always the nagging thought that some interfering person might ring the authorities because they disagree with how our kids are raised and educated.
Kerrin.
But while we're on the subject - how old do you think a child should be before being left alone.?
Anyway - thanks,
Janis
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In a message dated 4/23/2003 8:22:27 PM Central Daylight Time,
kerrin@... writes:
future, go out and get a book called "Disaster Blasters" by Laura Szabo-Cohen
and Karin Kasdin. Great book about what to do if you're home alone and the
toilet overflows or whatever.
Tuck
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kerrin@... writes:
> I think that like all the other stages our kids go through, readiness to beYes, and if you're going to be leaving your kid home alone in the near
> left alone isn't necessarily age related
future, go out and get a book called "Disaster Blasters" by Laura Szabo-Cohen
and Karin Kasdin. Great book about what to do if you're home alone and the
toilet overflows or whatever.
Tuck
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In a message dated 4/24/2003 8:20:36 AM Eastern Daylight Time,
janis@... writes:
"Enjoy it while you got it; you're gonna miss it when it's gone!"
Every "stage" can be delightful---if you let it!
~Kelly
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janis@... writes:
> heck, soon enough, she'll outgrow this stage and I'll miss it.From my Aunt Celie:
>
"Enjoy it while you got it; you're gonna miss it when it's gone!"
Every "stage" can be delightful---if you let it!
~Kelly
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In a message dated 4/24/03 7:38:12 AM Eastern Daylight Time,
abtleo@... writes:
especially when in another country. They sponsor you. So they make up the
regulation to protect everyone. It is hard to make up different rules for
each individual. And oversee all individual cases. But believe me don't get
into the Family Advocacy Social Services part of things. Just behave.
Jackson was clinic commander in Augsburg and Frankfurt, before they both
closed so was involved in those issues. Although I believe the Army Social
Services is much better than civilian, and much more objective.
Anyway just my 2 cents.....behave over there.
Pam G.
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abtleo@... writes:
> I disagree with it, and I've challenged this regulation recently. No answerIt is hard for the Army though. They are responsible for everyone,
> yet, which didn't really surprise me. But besides being reported to Family
> Advocacy and Social Services, I can also lose my command sponsorship to
> stay
> in Germany and be kicked out of housing. So I try to behave. I refuse to
> commently in a public forum about how successful I've been at behaving..
especially when in another country. They sponsor you. So they make up the
regulation to protect everyone. It is hard to make up different rules for
each individual. And oversee all individual cases. But believe me don't get
into the Family Advocacy Social Services part of things. Just behave.
Jackson was clinic commander in Augsburg and Frankfurt, before they both
closed so was involved in those issues. Although I believe the Army Social
Services is much better than civilian, and much more objective.
Anyway just my 2 cents.....behave over there.
Pam G.
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