heather mclean

<< I've been gently mentioning the unschooling
philosophies to my family and in-laws. I can see the
consternation and confusion, but they let it slide.
However, I know that when they find out what I'm
attempting with the eating, no words will be spared.
Can you help me prepare my defense ahead of time?>>

I just got a book from the library today. I haven't
read it yet, but my dh has started it. He says I need
to read it before Saturday - when my parents are
coming to visit. He says the book is perfect. I'll
let you know what I think after I read it....

"The gentle art of Verbal Self Defense" by Suzette
Haden Elgin

And yes, I agree it really isn't any of their
business. But they are my parents & I would like to
keep some kind of decent relationship with them. It
helps that they live in Alabama & we are in Arizona
<bg>.

heather in tucson AZ



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heather mclean wrote:

><< I've been gently mentioning the unschooling
>philosophies to my family and in-laws. I can see the
>consternation and confusion, but they let it slide.
>However, I know that when they find out what I'm
>attempting with the eating, no words will be spared.
>Can you help me prepare my defense ahead of time?>>
>
>I just got a book from the library today. I haven't
>read it yet, but my dh has started it. He says I need
>to read it before Saturday - when my parents are
>coming to visit. He says the book is perfect. I'll
>let you know what I think after I read it....
>
>"The gentle art of Verbal Self Defense" by Suzette
>Haden Elgin
>
>And yes, I agree it really isn't any of their
>business. But they are my parents & I would like to
>keep some kind of decent relationship with them. It
>helps that they live in Alabama & we are in Arizona
><bg>.
>
>heather in tucson AZ
>
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heather mclean wrote:

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>"The gentle art of Verbal Self Defense" by Suzette
>Haden Elgin
>
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>
Heather, I'll go tomorrow to our library and order it. Thank you. Heidi

heather mclean

<<Heather, maybe you could ask your mom to put her
concerns in writing so you can really think about
them, later on.

Probably she never will.

If she does, just the act of writing them down will
help her clarify her own thinking.

If she refuses, you could claim if it's not important
enough to put in writing, it must not be very
important.>>

Sandra,

That is a great idea! Thanks. I think she probably
would write them down, but it would take the issue out
of the immediate (hopefully) and emotional.

heather in tucson az



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In a message dated 4/10/03 10:18:54 AM, heather_200115@... writes:

<<
That is a great idea! Thanks. I think she probably
would write them down, but it would take the issue out
of the immediate (hopefully) and emotional. >>

Even if she doesn't, it's another of those stalling and "back off" tactics
like "After you've read this book."

You can say "I will read your opinion in writing," and every time she starts
to discuss, hold up your hand and say "In writing, please."

If she DOES read a book or write out her concerns, you TOTALLY win! And if
she doesn't, you get a reprieve.

Sandra