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> I never hear myself complaining about my husband's mean mother or my drunken
> confused mother without considering what kind of grandmother I might end up
> being myself. I wouldn't be patient and nice if my kids stuck bottles in
> the mouths of perfectly good newborn babies without even trying to nurse
> them, or put them in daycare centers at six or nine or 129 weeks. <g> I'd
> probably say something!
>
>

I have such a low opinion of my dil's mothering I was relieved when my
g-daughter was put into daycare at a home across the street - I thought that
mom might be nicer to Cassie, and Cassie would enjoy the company of the three
little girls. Needless to say - this is the son that no longer has contact
with any of us in the family - it is a painful and difficult situation. Not
at all what I had planned on!!

My dil is the only woman I have known that stated after the birth that the
labor "wasn't worth it". It may have simply been for shock value. Sad and
sick -- my son connected with her to save and rescue her. Needing someone
feels alot like loving someone to a young innocent man.

the sad grandmother,
Connie


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Tia Leschke

> My dil is the only woman I have known that stated after the birth that the
> labor "wasn't worth it". It may have simply been for shock value. Sad
and
> sick -- my son connected with her to save and rescue her. Needing someone
> feels alot like loving someone to a young innocent man.
>
> the sad grandmother,
> Connie

Oh Connie! That's so hard. Here's a bug hug from another grandma.
{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Connie}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

I've been lucky so far. My daughter has taken the things I've learned about
parenting and gone a few steps farther. Now I often look to her as a
parenting model. I have no idea what kind of wives my sons will pick. I
can only hope.
Tia