Re: [AlwaysLearning] A yucky bit of in-crowd
Lucie Caunter
I and my sons found these in-crowd behavior difficult to deal with at
first. They have never been to ps. They wouldn't qualify as christian
also. But they have been bullied by christians in a home schooling
group, we obviously don't belong to any more.
I have seen children who have just been pulled out of the school system
behaving that way. They are , at times, rude and cruel, and attempt to
create a separation, a group, an in-crowd, like the ones they were
familiar with. So it is them versus the rest of the kids for a while.
Some times it take them months to get back, to what they were probably,
before they entered the school system. But you can see the
transformation over the months.
I'm glad my sons were not brought up with values based on what you wear,
the apparent color you might be, the length of the hair, your culture
or religion. They are more apt to adapt to a wide variety of people and
can relate to others , perhaps in more depth. How you behave as a human
being becomes more important than your perceived status.
This is a good thing , also, because although my sons are rather
conservative ( more or less, whaterver that mean) in their out-look,
their mother doesn't like to be. Considering our mix bag of ancestors
( french, english, two different groups of natives, irish, scotish,
belge...) we don't fit in an ethnic group either. I'm definitely
grateful for that.
Friendship
Lucie
genant2@... wrote:
first. They have never been to ps. They wouldn't qualify as christian
also. But they have been bullied by christians in a home schooling
group, we obviously don't belong to any more.
I have seen children who have just been pulled out of the school system
behaving that way. They are , at times, rude and cruel, and attempt to
create a separation, a group, an in-crowd, like the ones they were
familiar with. So it is them versus the rest of the kids for a while.
Some times it take them months to get back, to what they were probably,
before they entered the school system. But you can see the
transformation over the months.
I'm glad my sons were not brought up with values based on what you wear,
the apparent color you might be, the length of the hair, your culture
or religion. They are more apt to adapt to a wide variety of people and
can relate to others , perhaps in more depth. How you behave as a human
being becomes more important than your perceived status.
This is a good thing , also, because although my sons are rather
conservative ( more or less, whaterver that mean) in their out-look,
their mother doesn't like to be. Considering our mix bag of ancestors
( french, english, two different groups of natives, irish, scotish,
belge...) we don't fit in an ethnic group either. I'm definitely
grateful for that.
Friendship
Lucie
genant2@... wrote:
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>>When I put Brianna in public school, for grade 1, it was hell! She didn't
>>have the same 'values' the kids in class had. One of the girls told her
>>that
>>she should have blonde highlights in her hair, that she would be "hot".
>>A boy told her she was too tall to be pretty,
>>She was told that I was a bad parent because I worked from home.
>>She was told that I was a lesbian because I have no husband.
>>She didn't dress right. They made fun of her.
>>She's not a Christian. They hit her.
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>We have two boys in our play group what went to public school prior to
>homeschooling and they have such a "girls vs boys" attitude. My boys don't
>even understand that concept. "why can't we all play together." Most of the
>children have never been to ps. I find that refreshing. My boys aren't
>picked on because of their long hair etc.
>Pam G.
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In a message dated 2/4/03 10:20:49 AM, lucie.caunter@... writes:
<< I have seen children who have just been pulled out of the school system
behaving that way. They are , at times, rude and cruel, and attempt to
create a separation, a group, an in-crowd, like the ones they were
familiar with. So it is them versus the rest of the kids for a while.
Some times it take them months to get back, to what they were probably,
before they entered the school system. But you can see the
transformation over the months. >>
Yes. The unschooling group we used to have "socialized" several boys who
came out of school swingin' at anyone and any thing. When they figured out
the unschoolers honestly just wanted them to be themselves they settled out
and got happy and mellow.
Sandra
<< I have seen children who have just been pulled out of the school system
behaving that way. They are , at times, rude and cruel, and attempt to
create a separation, a group, an in-crowd, like the ones they were
familiar with. So it is them versus the rest of the kids for a while.
Some times it take them months to get back, to what they were probably,
before they entered the school system. But you can see the
transformation over the months. >>
Yes. The unschooling group we used to have "socialized" several boys who
came out of school swingin' at anyone and any thing. When they figured out
the unschoolers honestly just wanted them to be themselves they settled out
and got happy and mellow.
Sandra